We all have attachment patterns. Some of us are securely attached, and have no challenges letting intimacy come close. Others are insecurely attached, and love can be the thing we most crave and fear at the same time.
We have our preferred strategies, that are either anxious or avoidant. In my experience (rather than some theories say), these strategies aren’t fixed, but dependent on who we meet, when, where, etc.
This is what I, primarily anxiously attached person, encounter when meeting someone who feels secure.
P.s. check my previous videos or blog for more about attachment patterns