In love, 1+1 is much more than 2

Mathematically 1+1 equals 2. If you have a certain amount of something and you wish to divide that amount with a number of people, everybody gets a part. When more people join the party, the portion of the pie each person receives reduces. Young parents love their newborn kids more than they could ever imagine. When a second baby is about to arrive, it is a common fear that they could never love the second child as much as this first child. After the second child is born they realise that their worry was needless. They love their second, third and all following children just as much as they love the first one. Love ≠mathematics Love is not like mathematics at…

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Polyamory: won’t he find a better match?

Open relationships often get the stigma that the partners involved are sexually very liberal, sharing their juices with many people. Often there is a negative energy surrounding the topic. That changes once people get to know what an open relationship really is about. Many couples I know realized that after I told them what an open relationship comes down to, they have a relationship themselves that can be labeled open is some way. To me, an open relationship is a relationship in which you support your partner to completely and totally live the life they wish for themselves. To discover who they are, to connect with people without limitations, fears or feelings of guilt. To enjoy life to the fullest…

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My open relationship

We all look for love. We all look for excitement. How can we keep our need for exciting moments fulfilled when we are in a long term relationship where we hold back ourselves and our partners, trying to fit in the picture society created of people and their relationships? All people seem to be looking for the perfect partner. Dating sites are very popular, although old fashioned flirting in disco’s and bars never ceased popularity either. Girls gossip with their friends about boys, and the boys pay attention carefully. Who will ask who to go to the prom? Who dares to ask for a secret kiss? Who is getting married? Finally… we meet our perfect match. The ideal man or…

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Life is fun

What is the meaning of life? Why are we on earth, why do we exist? Are we here to suffer? Watching television, reading the newspapers or glossy magazines, it seems that, indeed, we are here to get hurt. To feel pain. We read about war, about homicide. We watch programs where there might be one winner at the cost of many losers. We feel ourselves less miserable because there are so many others more miserable than we are. Everything is a choice. We choose how we feel. We choose the rain to influence our mood. Or we smile, independent of any kind of weather. We choose to watch tv, to read magazines full of gossip and judging stories about celebrities. It’s…

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