Eliminating the fear of not being a good parent

It is probably the most intense responsibility we will ever get: raising children. Taking care that these helpless, little babies grow up to become conscious, aware, responsible, smart, healthy adults. It can feel really scary. Without any preparation you suddenly are a ‘mother’ or a ‘father’. You can read all the books on parenting you can get hold on, watch documentaries and talk with experienced parents or with your own parents. But nothing will really prepare you for that feeling you will feel when you hold your firstborn for the very first time. I have three daughters. Each time after giving birth there was that emotional moment where I felt overflowed with love. But not only love. I also felt…

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On healing each other

How can you help others to heal when you focus on only one person and exclude everyone else? Open your mind, your arms, your heart and your belly for love. The pure act of opening is healing your self and the world. When you worry about your loved one(s) being with others Realize they are helping the others to heal. These others help your loved one(s) to heal. Being more heal they can help you to become more heal. So you can help others to become more heal. Together we heal everybody our selves and the world.

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On Loving and Feeling Loved

On loving and feeling loved

My love isn’t something to take from you. It’s nothing I want from you. I don’t need your love to confirm my existence. I’d rather say: “I feel love between us”, for I can only feel love resonating when we both unveil it. When we allow ourselves to not keep our love away from each other, but to ler it flow. Where my love meets your love the love multiplies into a glowing ball of energy enlightening you and I and all that surrounds us. More than “I feel love between us”, I prefer not to speak, and just observe the vibrating love with all my senses. Words are only needed when I’m not sure. Love isn’t something to be…

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The real, vulnerable, naked version of me

Wilrieke naked

I knew I had been fighting with myself for days again. There is a certain fear stuck inside me and I do not succeed accepting it. I try to hide it. Resist it. Fight it. Not only over the past few days these emotions came haunting me, but for many days over the last months and years I felt it. What do I feel? When I let someone come close to me -the real, vulnerable, naked me- it frightens me. I become afraid they will hurt me. A part of me sends out warning signals. Be careful! Protect yourself! Take distance! Guard yourself! There are three components at this moment that bring these feelings to the surface, stronger than ever…

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On Feeling Alone

The dark symbolizes loneliness. The bottom of the well where you lie, curled up, with nobody around or aware of your presence. Nobody to recognize your existence. Nobody to confirm to you that you take a place in this world. This is confusion. To know the light, you have to embrace the dark. You have to recognize the dark for what it is. It is not a place of despair, sadness and cruelty caused by others upon you. It never is. Your darkness is your teacher. Loneliness is nothing but the key to what you no longer need, the bottom of the well is the passage to freedom – to heaven. What can you do when you feel like you…

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Manifesto for Sisterhood

Women are mean. Is that not what they say? Unfortunately it is true. Girls, do you remember that from pre-school on, you always tried to be popular. To bully the weak one just to make sure you are not the one bullied? To spread rumors about a pretty girl, trying to lower her social status to your benefit? Or maybe you were the bullied person and you have seen the other side of the malice women can practice. We have created a society where women forgot how to connect with each other. We forgot how much we can uplift and support each other. In this fear-based society, we base our actions on the projections that frighten us most. What would…

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The largest conspiracy ever

The question I’m asked often is: “Why do you want to face your fears, and challenge yourself to live your life so differently? Why not just be like everybody else?” To me, my friends, ‘being like everybody else’ is taking part in the largest conspiracy ever. What is a conspiracy? To understand this, we need to understand what a conspiracy is. According to the Oxford Dictionary, a conspiracy is: a secret plan by a group to do something unlawful or harmful: a conspiracy to destroy the government [mass noun] the action of plotting or conspiring: they were cleared of conspiracy to pervert the course of justice ‘a conspiracy of silence’: an agreement to say nothing about an issue that should be…

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The difference between egoism and self-love

Putting myself first. Isn’t that a very selfish thing to do? Many of us have been taught since we were very young that we should take care of others before taking care of ourselves. We believe that it is a positive feature to be able to put others first. We’re proud of forgetting our own needs and making sure others are doing fine. The need of putting yourself first I truly believe that you can never make the people around you happy, when you are not happy yourself. How can you take care of others when you don’t take care of yourself? When a store only gives away things, it will be empty very quickly. By asking money in return,…

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Review: Mystic Life – Spiritual Polyamory

Spiritual Polyamory by Mystic Life is a self-called “powerful, groundbreaking work, certain to challenge and stimulate members of both the “poly-curious” and polyamorous communities. Mystic Life takes you on a journey into honesty, awareness and self-exploration. You will be encouraged to explore your true beliefs about love, jealousy, sex and letting go of control.” Love of all The book starts with clearing up the differences between ‘ego’ and your true self. We are already whole. The ego is a “collection of beliefs arising from fear and the illusion of separation”. What Mystic Life means, is that we judge others’ behavior (which stems from ego) for it makes us feel better to place our own ego above another person. I believe…

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Abundant love

I am in an open relationship. I don’t limit myself by sharing my love with only one person. I prefer and choose to live with an open heart. And I’m open about it. In our society it’s not very accepted nor appreciated to have an open relationship. There’s a lot of judgment, intolerance and most of all – fear. We all want to be loved. We do crazy things to be loved. We buy expensive clothes, go to the gym and follow a strict diet to look attractive, accept jobs with status… we do it to show the world we are worth loving. We want abundance. Not only we want love, we also want a lot of it! And why…

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