It’s no secret that I’m a fan of kink. The play with polarities, leading and surrendering can be an amazing path of personal growth. Ropes are a tool that we can use to emphasize the leading or surrendering pole. Being tied, there’s literally nowhere to go as your ability to move is restricted. Ropes are so much more than ropes: it’s a complete experience.
One of the most common pitfalls in the field of personal growth that I see is the belief that we have to face everything that triggers a response in us. After doing my research, I concluded this is absolute nonsense. Not everything we face is a challenge to overcome. Some things are a boundary, and we can say a loud and clear ‘no’ to the experience. Sometimes it can be a fine line whether something is a challenge or fear worth facing, or when it’s a boundary. I’m using my rollercoaster-analogy to explain how I feel the difference between what I do and don’t want to face.
Dear Beloved, Thank you for opening up to me For witnessing me in all that I am For your courage to open your heart and soul for me. Our love may come in different shapes as friends or lovers – or something in between and it may change every day. You’re not my partner As I am my own main ally I need to learn to hold myself When I’m celebrating and when I’m afraid. Yes, I am desiring a King Someone to stand next to me and to sit on the throne that stands next to mine. I dust it off every now and then, but I don’t rush to fill it as it…
The players may change, but the play stays the same. Have you ever noticed that? Even though you may be working on yourself, some patterns in your relationship game seen to stay. I’m mainly anxiously attached, with a wired-in fear of abandonment. During a week long retreat I was in, I got my patterns played out loud and clear. In my face.