The Possible Shadow of Boundaries
I noticed that, in me, having strong boundaries can also switch into a mechanism of creating distance.
Tag: Attachment Theory
Moving through Emotional Rough Patches
Whether it’s the planets, karma, ancestral healing or simply life as it is. This week is moving a lot in me. Sending all of you who are in some sort of a rough spot so much love. I love you. You are lovable. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
About Attracting Unavailable Partners
Attracting unavailable partners… It’s a pattern! I have written about it before: I’m so tired of attracting unavailable people. And also, what is emotional availability anyway? But: if there’s a pattern, there’s something to learn. What’s in this for me?
How Does Attraction Work?
We all know the commercial form of attraction where we stand frozen, blown away by the magnificence of the other. Or love at first sight. But are that all the flavors of attraction? And what does that attraction that comes with so much firework actually mean?
Experiences in Non-Monogamy: Finding myself as a Secure Center
Open relating can be an escape from exploring deeper within (I wrote about it on my blog, just do a search for ‘polyamory’ on my website) – connecting with many can be an escape from facing fears. But connecting with multiple people can also be a deep dive into creating a more secure attachment system. A sharing of my current personal explorations.
Honoring my Hunger: Letting Go of Deeper Layers of ‘Too-Muchness’
It started with feeling too much by feeling not enough. I tackled that in the process of stepping more into my power. But the fear of being too much to another being is still present. How does that manifest, and what to do with it?
Fuck Falling in Love
What actually happens when we feel attracted to someone?
It’s Okay to Ask for Confirmation
I believe it’s okay to ask confirmation from people when you feel insecure. Here are two reasons why.
(Video) The Patterns in Insecure Relating
The players may change, but the play stays the same. Have you ever noticed that? Even though you may be working on yourself, some patterns in your relationship game seen to stay. I’m mainly anxiously attached, with a wired-in fear of abandonment. During a week long retreat I was in, I got my patterns played out loud and clear. In my face.
(Video) Coming Back to safety
A few days ago I made a video in which I shared how my nervous system was shaken up by meeting someone.The sense of safety and welcoming blew me straight into an anxious response. Now, a few days later, I feel completely calm and relaxed again. Let me share you about this process too. P.s. this is the link to the previous video
