Attachment Dynamics in Crisis Times

by Wilrieke | Apr 19, 2020 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships

During times of crisis, like a pandemic, our attachment systems can play out even stronger than in usual times. Here’s my experience.

Changing Attachment Dynamics Can Feel So Wrong

by Wilrieke | Jan 23, 2020 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

It’s interesting. How when changing the patterns around me, the results become different. Of course. Different input (by conscious choice) creates a different output. But the brain! My mind says: “It’s different, which is not the usual pattern, which...

The Viking & I: Emotions when Entering a New Relationship

by Wilrieke | Dec 4, 2019 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

You may have seen the Viking on my media. Yep, he’s there. Entering my life the way Vikings do: effectively, present, and thorough. It’s the thing about attracting what you desire: once you actually realize what it is you really need, which may differ from...

When Anxious meets Secure – Attachment Dynamics

by Wilrieke | Nov 14, 2019 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

We all have attachment patterns. Some of us are securely attached, and have no challenges letting intimacy come close. Others are insecurely attached, and love can be the thing we most crave and fear at the same time. We have our preferred strategies, that are either...