The Ritual Cacao Ceremony

Cacao ceremony

Who doesn’t love chocolate? The combination of cacao, dance and a mind-expanding experience must be one of the most luscious things I can think of. I also love how plants and other natural substances can give us insights that we usually can’t reach. I call them imprints: once you felt them, you will always be able to reconnect to a certain feeling and apply it in new situations. I never tried ritual doses of theobromine, the active compound of chocolate. Raw cacao in ritual doses is celebrated for its capacities to open hearts and supports transformation through self-love. Raw cacao is also a powerful antioxidant, enhances the immune system, lowers the risk of heart disease, lowers high cholesterol and blood…

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I fucking love food

You heard me. I fucking love food. I did a detox where I ate 500 kcal a day for three weeks and felt much better. Until my food cravings came back worse then before. And then I read this humble article about why detox might not be beneficial for you. I love consciously indulging in life. I love food. I love my body. And somewhere there should be a balance between feeling healthy, being healthy and life’s treats (read: my current fetish for chocolate and peanutbutter). I don’t know what’s best practice. I know there’s a fine line between the masculine, focussed and determined approach (strict lifestyle modifications but also feeling tensed about everything I put into my mouth) and…

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How a detox can increase food addiction

Food addiction

I have been experimenting with nutritional supplements and doing a detox over the last weeks. One of my intentions for doing this detox, was breaking with my eating addictions. I hoped that staying away from sugar, wheat (carbs altogether) and fat for 21 days would rewire my brain into an addictive free, relaxed state. Partly it did. The cravings were still there, but they felt soft and I could handle them well most of the time. I knew I wouldn’t give into them, as I promised myself to fulfill these 21 days. But towards day 21, cravings increased. My mind found openings and options inside the challenge where I could give into the cravings. I had a conscious and very…

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Do you let thoughts get in the way of your Life Purpose?

Life Purpose

Yesterday my thoughts tried everything to make me eat the things I don’t want to eat during my detox. There were many, many reasons to eat cheese, chocolate and nuts. I ended up eating a tomato. I woke up this morning with thoughts telling me I was failing this detox. I ate too much, I didn’t exercise enough and my body was just doing what I want it to do. Especially with the things I really want to do, the things alligned with my life purpose, my thoughts try to disctract me. Try to make me do other things. Telling me I’m too tired, not capable, I need to do other things first. I’ll do the things I really want…

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Do you need to have it all?

Do you need to have it all?

Can you smell a delicious dish and not eat it? Can you enjoy an intense hug without needing to kiss her? Can you enjoy kissing her without needing to have sex? Can you have sex without needing an orgasm? So often we are one step ahead in our head, not being present in this current moment. We forget to enjoy what is in front of us, what we have, and trade it for thoughts of how it could be better, leaving us unfulfilled and dissatisfied. Try it today: be present with what is there. If you find your thoughts moving to the next step, smile at yourself, acknowledge your longing, and see if you can let go. It just might…

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The raw truth about my open relationship

The raw truth about my open relationship

In my last article, ‘Letter to the women who sleep with my man’, I shared words with you that came from my heart. The message is real: I have shared words like these with sisters, and I would share them again. But the letter may also create the image that an open relationship, my open relationship, is all about rose buds and fairy tales. And that is not for real. I have written about the challenges in polyamory before. In this article I will give you a glimpse into my life, into how I experience open relationships and polyamory, my pitfalls and what works for me to find my way back. My open relationship is the toughest and deepest path of…

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Whiskey and chocolate for breakfast

Life is Yummy!

Do you trust life? Do you trust the flow of things surrounding you? We let ourselves be haunted by the echoes of voices from the past. We should perform, please, procreate! We cannot relax, I mean, what does one do when one does nothing? How to fill that gap with something… useful? We teach our kids to tidy up, to be good… but what is that? Why not enjoy the mess of aliveness, the clutteredness of presence… and unwind every now and then? To step out of your routine, move away from those you know best. Breathe. Throw it all upside down. Realize once again the relativity of what bothers you. And what really matters in life. Life will live…

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How 2014 changed my life

Wilrieke wild side

Now this would be a title I could use each year, because each year will gift chances and changes. But in several ways 2014 felt like a tilting-point-kind-of-year. You know, that feeling that you built towards something, and suddenly the critical mass has been reached and the balance tips over. That kind of feeling. There is one word that can describe this whole shift for me: abundance. Now you probably know the Law of Attraction, how we can attract everything we desire into our lives by believing it’s already there. Although I have been working on creating abundance for longer, the difference is that I now really feel abundant. I can feel a deepened trust in myself and the world.…

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Make 2015 your best year yet in life and business

Leonie Dawson 2015 workbook

Hello women! Have you ever heard about Leonie Dawson? I love her! She creates the most stunning, vibrant, inspiring things for women. She’s also a self-made millionaire entrepreneur living with two small children in the Australian jingle. Yup, she proves there are no excuses not to make it! Whether you are a Business Goddess aiming to reach millions, or being the best mother for your kids; Leonie will lift your mood and transmit her contagious optimistic energy right through your computer screen. If you are allergic for chubby, pink unicorns or the word ‘Goddess’ Leonie is definitely not for you. When you like colors as well as making the best of your life, keep reading. I’ve been working with quite…

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The bird and the cage

There’s a famous story about a woman who admired a free flying bird so much, that she put it in a cage so she could admire his feathers and beautiful song all day long. But the bird was unhappy being caged for he couldn’t fly no longer. His colours faded and his song perished. The woman forgot the bird and the bird died. A bird is most beautiful when he can fly freely. So are we. When we set ourselves free we shine the brightest. Do you sometimes realise that you feel caged by life? Realise that nobody put you into this cage. Even though you see nothing but bars, the door is open and was never locked at all.…

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