Safety is not about preventing anything challenging or potentially hurtful from happening (that’s impossible anyway). It’s about what happens afterward. About creating closeness, intimacy, and trust again. It’s about listening and being heard. It’s about commitment and actions after that.
Occasionally it happens in a workshop that despite all our eyes and experience, someone with less integrity moves around, making an impact. It happens with my friends and loved ones. Of course, some things would be beyond repair, but in that area before that:
I have learned that friction can create more closeness, trust, and intimacy than before. It’s a scary process. It requires humbleness, willingness, and courage. Doing it together (you can’t do that alone).