Sometimes you want something else than a fully guided workshop. A play party is the perfect mixture of a fully guided space, like-minded people who understand respect and consent, and freedom to play your way.
What is a play party?
A Play Party is a co-created space of endless exploration based on your own desires and boundaries. Within that playground, there are endless possibilities!
Co-creation means that we start together in a circle. There are agreements (like confidentiality, respecting relationship agreements, taking care of your own wellbeing, and a few more) that we share and, if you want to stay for the rest of the night, agree to by raising your hand.
We share our mildest and wildest desires as well as our fears. There will be heart-opening exercises, and reminders of how our YES, NO, and MAYBE’s feel in our bodies before we smoothly transition into free play.
There’s no focus on sexuality, you don’t have to do anything. A play party simply means that, unlike in most parts of our lives, éverything is welcome – also sexuality. We will remind you that drinking a cup of tea while being a witness is a perfect experience as doing sexy things you never did before. We will also remind you that sometimes these play parties are happenings beyond our wildest dreams, and sometimes they trigger the freak out of us, we feel stuck and excluded, not knowing what to do. This is amazing too, as now you have community and support to work with what is coming up, and break your patterns and release your trauma.
This event has no expectations or requirements. It is a space to be expressed and celebrated, to explore! You are welcome with all that you bring and who you are – at this moment.
What does a play party look like?
A play party generally starts with an afternoon program that includes a changing workshop. Wheel of Consent, kinky skills, bondage, energy sex, and massage are a few of the workshops we have had so far. These afternoon programs are not optional: they are part of the experience. Exercises in boundaries, desires, consent, and sharing are always integrated into the program.
After a shared (potluck) dinner, the evening slowly unfolds in a freeflow space that is guided by Wilrieke and her team of assistants. Team members are not participants; we are here to hold the container for you, support, assist, start you up or help you with your skillset (if you want to know more, feel free to check the ethical code we work with).
For who are play parties?
Play parties are a space for people with experience in intimacy workshops. You know how to express boundaries and desires. People in different states of being clothed (or not), and sexy interactions around you don’t shock you. This is a space to celebrate every part of you. We welcome vanilla, kink (bring your things!), tantra, all genders, sexual preferences, cultural backgrounds, ages (though 18+), looks, and years of experience.
Whether you come to smooch, for a good conversation, to invite people to play or to witness – you design your experience.
Do know this: this is by no means a space for easy sex. We don’t tolerate hunting behavior, and people who cross boundaries, respect, or consent will be removed from the space without a refund.
Play parties are not for you when:
- You have never been to any intimate and/or sex-positive events before (examples are: tantric cuddle workshops, tantra, kink events. When in doubt, send us a message to check in whether this is for you). This can definitely be your first play party (it has been for many), but some experience with workshops will make your entrance into the realm of play parties easier.
- You are looking for easy sex. You won’t find it here. Likely you will be confronted with a needy/greedy attitude.
- You are uncomfortable with your own discomfort, triggers, and/or emotional processes.
Play parties are for you when:
You are sensually, erotically, and emotionally savvy enough to play nicely with others. You’re a good sharer, you take good care of your toys and you use your words. You are somebody who knows your own wants and boundaries and can communicate them clearly, and/or you’re someone willing to work and explore these areas for your own growth and enjoyment! You treat yourself and others with respect and kindness.
If you’re reading this, thinking, “I would love to come, but I don’t want to play,” PLEASE COME and enjoy the pressure-free company of like-minded individuals and exit whenever you wish. Really. There will be no pressure for you to do ANY activity at this party at any time.
Our biggest request is that you come with a fun-loving, warm, caring, open-minded, generous, thoughtful, compassionate, non-judgmental attitude and that you conduct yourself with the highest level of integrity possible.
This will be a very chill, fun, playful event where sex and nudity will most likely occur. Come relax. Come smooch. Come play. Come watch. (You know us: voyeurism is participation!)
All genders, bodies, and orientations welcome. Come as you are and have a great time!
What do I wear to a play party?
Wear what makes you feel comfortable during the workshops. Bring some layers, as you might get hot. For the evening you can play with what you want to embody or experience: maybe a hidden part that desires some unveiling? A part you’d like to celebrate? Something that makes you feel safe to be in an exciting environment? Your pajamas? Or do as I do and bring different options, so you can choose in the moment.
This is what one of our first-time participants said:
“It’s wonderful to look back at my first play party, to reflect and feel how nervous I was.
What if everyone is able to enjoy, and not me? What if everyone is looking at me and not in a good way? What if everyone wants to stay and I want to leave? What if I am not good enough?
I entered the space and felt immediately good, but still small. The afternoon workshop helped me to lose my feeling of ‘I have to be the best’ in the group. There was an exercise ‘I wanna touch you for my own pleasure’ which was such an eye opener for me. Never thought about that before, always I gave touch for the other person. Never I was able to say no, and I realised that I endured so much in the past that I did not like it. I just did not dare to make it stop…
I lost my doubt about myself, I found trust, and felt so super good. First I felt I couldn’t take off my shirt, because of not feeling sexy enough… and later… lucky me I didn’t buy new clothes, because after a while during the play party, I was the whole time naked.
This play party was the best thing that could have happened to me. It was a life changing journey and I am so grateful for that! Every experience after was different for me and I still train to step up and share my desire.” – Johan
“Being part of Wilrieke’s amazing play party was like (re)discovering a part of myself that I’d always known was somehow missing. Her caring and deeply ethical approach to intimacy, and her insistence on safe and respectful experiences, made sure that everybody felt supported, understood, inspired and excited. Wilrieke is cool, dynamic, knowledgeable and dedicated to what she does. I don’t believe I’ve ever given anyone this sort of score before, but she gets 100% from me for a magical event full of light, warmth and exploration.” – Ivan
Play Party FAQ
Please check www.prettigparkeren.nl. Parking is free (drive past the building and to the right), but calculate some extra time to find a spot.
The doors open 30 minutes before the start of the event. Before that, the doors won’t be open.
Only if you desire. That’s never an obligation.
That’s completely your choice. Depends on your mood. Being a witness is a perfectly valid way of participating.
Then you don’t
Yes. We provide tea and snacks. You bring (vegetarian) food for the potluck dinner.
We don’t take tickets back and don’t mediate in selling tickets. (See Wilrieke’s terms and conditions). You are free to sell your ticket to someone else. Please respect the gender of the ticket, and in case we send pre/aftercare emails, forward them to the person you sold your ticket to.
You can bring ropes or other toys that may increase your pleasure for the play party in the evening. We will provide some things for shared use.
We want to include everyone, whatever your gender or identification is. That means there’s space for everyone, without one group getting overrepresented. Therefore there are tickets for people who identify themselves as male, female and other.
A Tantric Red Play Party is a co-created space of endless exploration based on your own desires and boundaries. Within that playground, there are endless possibilities!