Notes from your #intimacyactivist
My last weeks have been marked by relationships defined by manipulation.
Blaming someone too young to understand electronics for not asking for the right machine is gaslighting. Facilitators offering sex in exchange for trauma therapy (or sex ás trauma therapy) is abusive. Folks saying that teachers in a power dynamic inevitably will ‘make mistakes and use their power to their benefit’ are enablers and part of the problem. Trying to persuade someone to say yes after they said no is coercion.
Do you wish to have healthy relationships, both personally, romantic, platonic, or professional? Stop manipulating, start being honest and vulnerable. You may not get what you want, true. My spiritual practice in those moments is to say to the other: ‘Thank you for taking care of yourself’.
