Tune in to your Navigation System for a happy, healthy, human life where you feel empowered and in charge of your intimate experiences – with TEDx Speaker Wilrieke Sophia.

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Most of us have learned to ignore our boundaries and desires. And this is problematic. By not knowing what it is what we want, we turn to the next best thing: we do what others want. Or what we think others want. Or what we think society wants.

Making choices in this way is very often not fulfilling. On the contrary: we might cross our boundaries, or even traumatize ourselves.

Especially in the realms of intimacy, there’s a lot to gain.

What happens inside you, when you meet someone you really like and want to connect with?

Can you decide for yourself what speed you want things to move? Can you tell them exactly how you do and don’t want to be touched? Do you feel confident about what you would like to explore with them?

Or, perhaps, do you feel insecure? Are you an ‘all-or-nothing’ intimacy type, where once you say yes to someone, it’s hard to say no to certain things (because you said yes to connecting, right)? Do you always find yourself being attracted to the ‘wrong’ types who leave you feeling used and empty?

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Our Inner Navigation System

We all have an inner compass that tells us exactly what we want and don’t want: our Inner Navigation System. Your built-in GPS.

Tuning in to our Navigation System will connect us to what we want and need. It can help us to navigate life in a way that is nourishing, empowering, and fulfilling.

This is an incomplete list of benefits of a strong connection to your Navigation System:

– no longer depending on others to make your choice
– being able to say ‘no’ to things you don’t want
– being able to say full-hearted ‘YES’ to the things you do want
– clarity on where negotiation/compromise is possible, and what your hard limits are
– feeling empowered in intimate situations
– having access to a broader spectrum of options of connection than sex/no sex
– increased self-confidence

We can learn to contact to this Navigation System

When we let go of the conditioning that we carry in our nervous system, and rewire ourselves, we can change the way we interact with others.

When we slow down and start listening, we can sensitize our connection to our Navigation System. And once we know how it works, we can always go back.

And not just in the bedroom!

Intimacy is an amazing playground to explore our Navigation System. But strengthening my connection with my inner Navigation System has also helped me make confident decisions around running my business, parenting my kids, establishing boundaries towards friends, stopping online bullies, flirting with new people, and feeling confident when I find myself in parties where I don’t know anyone.

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Navigating Intimacy is a playground in which, for two days, you will learn how your Navigation System communicates with you in your unique way. You will learn about your boundaries and desires, and practice in a playful way.

Some of the things that we’ll explore:
– the difference between a real ‘yes’ and a conditioned ‘yes’;
– the power of saying ‘no’ and how it doesn’t have to end an interaction, but rather navigate it;
– all the ways in which you consciously or unconsciously try to manipulate others into your hidden desires;
– touching and being touched for your pleasure;
– getting a Ph.D. in asking for what you want;
– a conscious laboratory to practice and strengthen your skills.

The workshop consists of practical exercises, reflection, sharing, and a guided space to practice. You’ll work alone, in pairs, and in other group constellations.

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Also

No prior experience in any bodywork, personal growth workshop, or otherwise is needed. This workshop is in no way a replacement for therapeutic care. Participation is not recommended for people with severe unprocessed trauma or diagnoses.

This workshop will contain touch and may contain (partial) nudity. This will always be a personal choice and is never necessary for full participation in the workshop. There will be no sexual interaction of any kind.

We welcome people of all genders, sexual orientations, cultural backgrounds, and otherwise. This workshop is suited for singles, couples, and people in other relationship constellations.

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