The Kinky Tantra Intensive

2020: February 8 – 9 in Amsterdam (NL)

Do you want to:
➸ increase your communication skills in your (future) relationships?
➸ become more present, authentic and able to hold space for another person?
➸ add juice to your present and future relationships?
➸ learn what polarity means, and how it adds quality, sexy and depth to any relationship?
➸ learn some new & cool skills, whether this is using toys and tools, or how something as simple as breath can increase pleasure?
➸ spend time with an amazing group of like-minded people in a gorgeous, artistic place near nature?

This is the Kinky Tantra Intensive, a weekend of exploring Tantra and Kink in an intuitive way. You will learn how the practices of Tantra and Kink are no opposites, but complementary pathways that can increase each others depth and effect.

Please read through this document if you feel the call. After the short overview of the weekend, you will find more detailed descriptions of what this weekend is and what the different terms (like Puja, Play party, etc) mean; what the program looks like; and who is facilitating. Most of your questions will probably be answered by the end of it.

This event is LGBTQ+ positive and welcomes singles, couples, triads and other relationship constellations to join. Couples may choose to stay together if that feels the most important for them. This events welcomes both beginners and well seasoned experts in both Tantra and Kink. Some experience with workshops in intimacy (tantra, kink, cuddling, massage) is recommended.

🔥 A short overview of the weekend 🔥

This workshop runs from Saturday February 8th until Sunday February 9th, 2020.

Saturday: 10.00h – 19.00h (doors open at 9.30h)
Sunday: 11.00h – 19.00h with soft ending until 20.00h (doors open at 9.30)

This weekend is designed as a full-on deep-dive into the world of Kinky Tantra. On Saturday there’s the intensive day, where you will learn about polarity play, how to hold space, how to use your body as a juicy instrument, get to know different impact tools and learn how to use them, and learn how to set up a scene.

Sunday starts with bringing in some new elements into your play, working with different sensen. The afternoon is designed as a Sacred Play Party where you can play with the things you have learned in a held space, where we can support you to deepen your practice.

🔥 What will I learn this weekend? 🔥

Learning opportunities that are offered include:

– Learn what differentiates play from abuse
– Experiencing the yes, no and space in between in your body, and letting that guide you
– Awaken your Shamanic/intuitive powers to deepen your play
– Important ingredients to create a scene
– Using your body as the most sensual tool for play
– Getting basic skills and/or deepening your practice with different toys of impact (floggers, canes, paddles) though tantric practices.
– Getting imprints of interactions with different people, what they awaken and bring up in you, and what you can learn from all that

➤ Note: this is a sex-positive / red event. What does this mean?

At no point during this weekend you are required to be naked or sexual. You can participate in the full weekend while being dressed and without touching anyone. We do ask you to have some experience with sensual and/or sexual spaces, and be comfortable with nudity and sexuality in the room. We also ask you to feel comfortable expressing your boundaries.

Our color system:
White: this is an event for all levels of experience. Clothes stay on, there’s no sexuality or nudity.
Pink: this is a moderate event. partial nudity is allowed. There’s no sexual interaction during the workshop.
Red: full nudity and sexual interactions are allowed (but never mandatory).

➤ You have never been to any intimate and/or s-positive events before (when in doubt, send Wilrieke a message to check in whether this is for you).
➤ You are looking for easy sex. You won’t find it here. Likely you will be confronted with a needy/greedy attitude.
➤ You are uncomfortable with your own discomfort, triggers and/or emotional processes.
➤ You have trouble with social interactions, feel challenged by being in a group.
➤ You have unresolved trauma around sexuality, intimacy and/or group spaces that require full time one on one guidance.

🔥 What is Conscious Kink & Kinky Tantra? 🔥

Many roads lead to Rome they say. But if I can choose, I pick the one with the best view on the way. Life is not about the goal, but the journey. How that journey looks is completely up to us though.

I happen to love the Kinky and the Tantric stuff. And I love to share that juice with you.

🔥 Why Conscious Kink and Tantra? 🔥

Tantra, because it’s the path that embraces *everything* that is present *now* without judgment. It’s an ever-ongoing unfolding of the deepest surrender possible to life itself.

‘Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.’ Tantra inspires me to open up deeper to myself (i.e. life), zoom out of the suffering, and return to a state of flow, happiness and bliss easier every day (except, well, some days).

Conscious Kink is the path of explicit polarity. In daily love making the roles of giving vs. taking (or leading vs. following, guiding vs. surrendering) can be blurry, ending in that nobody really can focus on what is happening. Kink can support us bringing back that juicy polarity.

Consciously designed scenes are also amazing for trauma healing, embracing inner power, as well as connecting to parts of us that scare us (both as the dominant or submissive), but keep us away from fully embracing ourselves and our power as long as we don’t fully do so.

Toss a little Wheel of Consent into this mix, and we move to clear, juicy, deep interactions that will help us become better people and change the world. I really believe this.

(If you want to know more about my fascination with tantra & Conscious Kink, read this article.)

🔥 What’s a Sacred Play Party? 🔥

A Sacred Play Party is a co-created space of endless exploration based on your own desires and boundaries. Within that playground, there are endless possibilities!

Co-creation means that we start together in a circle. There are agreements (like confidentiality, respecting relationship agreements, taking care of your own wellbeing, and a few more) that we share and, if you want to stay for the rest of the night, agree to by raising your hand.

We share our mildest and wildest desires as well as our fears. There will be heart-opening exercises, and reminders of how our YES, NO and MAYBE’s feel in our bodies before we smoothly transition into free play.

There’s no focus on sexuality, you don’t have to do anything. A play party simply means that, unlike in most parts of our lives, éverything is welcome – also sexuality. We will remind you that drinking a cup of tea while being a witness is as a perfect experience as doing sexy things you never did before. We will also remind you that sometimes these play parties are happenings beyond our wildest dreams, and sometimes they trigger the freak out of us, we feel stuck and excluded, not knowing what to do. This is amazing too, as now you have community and support to work with what is coming up, and break your patterns and release your trauma.

This evening has no expectations or requirements. It is a space to be expressed and celebrated, to explore! You are welcome with all that you bring and who you are – in this moment.

A few words on team integrity

You probably have heard about the #metoo movement and how it also rages through the (Dutch and international) Tantra and conscious sexuality scene.

Integrity and creating a safer space is super important to us. You, the participants, are not our personal dating pool. There are power dynamics that can be juicy, but also abusive.

Members of our Exploring Deeper team, regardless of their role (which may be assistant, co-facilitator, helper or participant) will not individually date people they meet in the workshop. They will not have any form of fluid exchange with participants.

We might support you in your exercises or provide a service during the play party (we’re always keen on helping you improve your spanking skills for example!).

If we have pre-existing partners or lovers in the workshop, we will disclose that at the opening of the workshop.

If you are curious about our Guidelines for Team Members, feel free to check out the full document.

Some practical information

This weekend takes place in a beautiful venue in Amsterdam. There’s plenty of free parking around the venue, and public transport easily brings you there. Check for public transport details.

The workshop doesn’t include lodging. There are options nearby in Amsterdam (google search ‘cheap hostels around Amsterdam’). AirBnB works well too (tip: ask in the event for other participants to share a room with).

Dates and Timing

This workshop runs from Saturday, February 8th until Sunday, February 9th.

Saturday: 10.00h – 19.00h (doors open at 9.30h)
Sunday: 11.00h – 19.00h with soft ending until 20.00h (doors open at 9.30)

The workshop doesn’t include lodging. There are options nearby in Utrecht (google search ‘cheap hostels around De Bilt’). AirBnB works well too (tip: ask in the event for other participants to share a room with).


To keep tickets at affordable pricing, we ask you to bring some (vegetarian) lunch to share. If you bring a bit more than just for yourself, we will end up with a luscious, abundant lunch every day. Made or bought with love is equally fine!

We will provide tea, water and snacks throughout the weekend.

On Sunday we have a soft ending, meaning that we will provide soup and bread, and take an hour post-workshop time to integrate and get ready to go back into the real world.

What do I wear? 

Wear what makes you feel comfortable during the workshops. Bring some layers, as you might get hot. For the Play Party you can play with what you want to embody or experience: maybe a hidden part that desires some unveiling? A part you’d like to celebrate? Something that makes you feel safe to be in an exciting environment? Your pajamas? Or do as I do and bring different options, so you can choose in the moment.

Where can I sign up and what does it cost?

We have three tiers of tickets, each tier is a little more expensive than the previous. The earlier you boook, the more reduction you get.

There are a few budget tickets for those with limited financial resources. You decide whether this is you (we trust your honesty). If money still is a real problem and you feel you MUST come, please send me a message and we’ll figure it out ♥

You can find tickets right here! >>>

Why gendered tickets?

We want to include everyone, whatever your gender or identification is. That means there’s space for everyone, without one group getting overrepresented. Therefore there are tickets for people who identify themselves as male, female and other.

Please only buy a ticket that represents your (chosen) gender – and not any other ticket. Sold out = sold out.

Who’s Wilrieke?

Wilrieke Sophia is an international coach, facilitator, and practitioner in the field of sexuality based in Amsterdam, The Netherlands. She openly combines being a mother of three daughters with working in the field of sexuality.

The main pillar of her work is the same across the broad spectrum of things she brings: empowerment through self-knowledge, embodied experiencing of boundaries and desires, and extensive practice of consent.

She hosts sex-positive events and play parties, workshops and retreats focussing on sexuality, kink, tantra, and ritual, and hosts intimacy festivals. In her client sessions, she welcomes people of all genders and supports them to embrace their sexuality, supporting them to build a positive body image, release shame and negative conditionings, and welcome pleasure. She also runs the non-sExual Cuddle Workshops International and brings facilitator trainings.

Close to her heart is bringing the topics of intimacy and sexuality to the mainstream conversation. She has been writing, blogging, and creating videos about sex and intimacy since 2011. In 2019, her work has been featured in national newspapers, magazines, and television. In October 2019, Wilrieke climbed the stage of TEDx with a talk about empowerment through intimacy and s.xuality.

She is the founder of Knuffelworkshops Nederland & België and Cuddle Workshops International, holding teacher trainings and masterclasses for practitioners and facilitators.

Besides all this she holds a MSc degree in Forest and Nature Conservation.


Please check out this FAQ. If your question isn’t in this list, you can send an email to Marlies, the coordinator of this event.

Q. Why is this event in English. You’re Dutch, right?
A. True, I’m as Dutch as they come. This event is in English as we welcome international participants too. If, during the event, we find out everyone speaks/understands Dutch, we’ll switch to Dutch.

Q. Do I have to be naked? Do I have to have sex?
A. No. You also don’t have to touch people. We won’t grade you for participation. There’s no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ or ‘better’. Sitting, observing and having a cup of tea is a perfectly valid experience.

Q. Do I have to bring a partner?
A. No. Most people come on their own. You are free to bring your partner (or partners), friend, neighbor or whoever you feel like bringing.

Q. I’m gay. Can I come?
A. Of course. This evening is open to all sexual orientations and all genders. As long as interactions are between consenting adults, all is well.

Q. What does a play party look like?
A. We’ll start with an open circle, we will create a safe container for our evening with introductions and clear agreements.

After that, there will be some exercises to practice body and emotional knowledge, communication skills, speaking desires, and boundaries. From this place of co-creation and clarity, we will evolve into conscious open space for everyone. This is a sex-positive space: $exual interaction (within the guidelines of our safer $ex agreements) is welcome.

Q. Where do I sleep?
A. You make your own arrangements. You can do a shoutout in the event page on Facebook.

Q. What’s the exact location of the venue?
A. We’ll let you know after you sign up. It’s just outside of Utrecht (NL).

Q. How do I prepare and what do I bring?
A. There will be an email with Joining Instructions coming your way about 10 days before the event, with extensive information on how to prepare, what to bring, etc.

Is your question not here?

Send us a message!

🔥 May you always know how empowered and loved you are! 🔥

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