Feedback

We want you to know that all your feedback is welcome. Whether you applaud us for certain things (we love to hear that!), whether we can improve, or whether we absolutely messed up.

You may want to (re-)read our Ethics Statement, Terms and Conditions, or FAQ to check what we promised.

Contact Wilrieke directly

When it feels safe to reach out to us directly, we invite you send Wilrieke a message through the contact form. These messages end up directly in Wilrieke’s inbox. Nobody else will read the message, and both your identity and the content will be treated confidentially unless otherwise agreed. Wilrieke will inform you about what they will do with your feedback.

Consent Matters

Feeling that something wasn’t okay – whether in one of the Signal groups or during an event – can be unsettling. You are always welcome to reach out to Wilrieke via DM on Signal, email, or use the contact form on this page.

If contacting Wilrieke directly feels like too much, you can also reach out to their accountability pod (see below). They can pass your message on anonymously, so you can share what happened in a way that feels safe for you.

Examples of consent violations include:

Someone touched you without your consent during an event.
Someone came close to watch you or your interaction without asking.
Someone continued a specific behaviour after being redirected by Wilrieke or a team member.
You expressed a boundary, and it wasn’t respected.
Someone messaged you privately without your consent.
Someone tried to isolate you (for example, separating you from the group, applying pressure to meet privately, or pushing for contact outside supervised spaces such as social media or email).
You felt unsafe around someone for any other reason.

Your message will always be held with care and confidentiality. With your consent, we will approach the person involved and have a conversation. If needed, consequences may follow up to and including limitations or removal from future events.

Contact the Accountability Pod

If, for any reason, you do not feel comfortable sharing feedback or a concern directly with Wilrieke, you are welcome to contact a member of their Accountability Pod.

What is an Accountability Pod?

An Accountability Pod is a small group of trusted professionals who have agreed to support ethical responsibility, transparency, and integrity in our work. Our fields include embodiment, intimacy, group facilitation, coaching, education, therapy-informed practices, and community-based work. We do not have business interests in one another’s companies, and we each work independently.

Because our professions are not always regulated or covered by professional complaint systems, we have chosen to create our own structure to:

Hold each other accountable for our actions
Support learning, repair, and transformation when mistakes are made
Offer a safe, structured way for people to share concerns or experiences of harm
Encourage transparency, ethical reflection, and emotional responsibility
Balance care for both the person raising a concern and the person involved

An accountability process is not about punishment, but about listening, recognizing impact, taking responsibility, and exploring appropriate steps for repair or change.

How the Accountability Pod supports you

When you contact a pod member, they will:

Listen confidentially to your experience
Help explore what you need: understanding, acknowledgement, conversation, change, repair
Clarify possible options: mediation, response, reflection, or other steps
Support you emotionally throughout the process
Inform you about whether and how the other person might be involved

They can also pass on a message to Wilrieke if you want your message to arrive anonymously at Wilrieke.

You may choose any pod member to contact. Your message will be treated with care, respect, and without judgment.

Als je om welke reden dan ook niet comfortabel bent om feedback of een zorg direct met Wilrieke te delen, kun je contact opnemen met een lid van diens Accountability Pod.

Wat is een Accountability Pod?

Een Accountability Pod is een kleine groep professionals die bewust afspraken heeft gemaakt over ethische verantwoordelijkheid, transparantie en aanspreekbaarheid in ons werk. Wij werken in verschillende vormen van lichaamswerk, begeleiding, educatie, groepsfacilitatie en community based werk. We zijn geen zakelijke partners en werken onafhankelijk van elkaar.

Omdat ons werkveld niet altijd onder een officiële beroepsgroep of klachtencommissie valt, hebben wij zelf een structuur ontwikkeld die helpt om:

Elkaar aanspreekbaar te houden op ons handelen
Herstel, inzicht en verandering mogelijk te maken als er iets misgaat
Een veilige en gestructureerde manier te bieden om een klacht of zorg te delen
Transparantie, reflectie en zorgvuldigheid te stimuleren
Zowel de melder als de betichte met zorg te ondersteunen

Ze kunnen ook een bericht van jou anoniem doorsturen aan Wilrieke als jij wilt dat jouw melding anoniem bij Wilrieke arriveert.

Het accountabilityproces is niet gericht op bestraffing, maar op luisteren, erkennen van impact, verantwoordelijkheid nemen en passende stappen richting herstel of verandering.

Hoe de Accountability Pod jou kan ondersteunen

Het podlid dat je benadert zal:

Vertrouwelijk naar je verhaal luisteren
Met jou onderzoeken wat je nodig hebt: erkenning, helderheid, gesprek, verandering, herstel
Uitleggen welke mogelijkheden er zijn, zoals mediation, reflectie of vervolgacties
Je tijdens het proces emotioneel ondersteunen
Informeren over of en hoe de andere persoon eventueel betrokken kan worden

Je kunt zelf kiezen wie je benadert. Elk bericht wordt met zorg, respect en zonder oordeel behandeld.

Arati

She/her

I identify as a woman, bi/pansexual/queer. Sex-positive, queer, non-monogamous. Mother of two, partner of Gert. Kink-friendly. Survivor of sexual abuse and long-term bullying. I was raised in a teacher’s family in a small village in North Holland.
I work as a sexological bodyworker and somatic sex educator, coach and supervisor of change processes, Ritual Play trainer, Transformational breath breathing trainer, and Deep Tissue masseur. I work individually and also give workshops. I am the founder of Practice for Sexual Discovery Work, which is located in Nijmegen.
Important themes for me are consent, humor, and compassion, highlighting female pleasure, trauma-informedness, and a more fun and creative sex life for everyone.
When you work with people, their minds, hearts, and bodies, you are involved as a person in any case, including your knowledge and experience, but also sometimes with parts of yourself that you have not always fully experienced. Because it is so essential that we remain aware of this, every practitioner and workshop leader needs a place where they can be mirrored and addressed. Being accountable to each other means being visibly more reliable to our clients and participants and having a place for ourselves where we are kept sharp on things that could go wrong in an honest way. And to prevent the latter, of course.
People call me warm, funny, and kind, but also direct and honest; I do not spare egos ;). A talent of mine is to make taboo subjects completely cozy and normal and thus break the ice.

Contact Arati

Karlijn Kouwenhoven

She/her

Cisgender woman, Dutch, Western European background, highly sensitive empath (HSE), dancer, Tantra teacher, former corporate consultant, MSc in Social & Organisational Psychology. My work and life have been shaped by neurodiversity in my environment, international work experience across three continents, interactions with different social classes, and my own journey with freedom, regulation and embodiment.
I have worked as a trainer for 20 years, including 15 years as a Tantra teacher, group facilitator and coach. I am the founder of KABI·RA. My focus includes awareness, regulation, intimacy, group dynamics, Tantra, and translating the body–psyche connection into (self-)leadership.
Working at the cutting edge with highly vulnerable human processes, safety, clarity and maturity are my priorities. To continuously examine my shadow, responsibility and impact, accountability—for myself, the group and each other—is essential.
Qualities that describe me: direct, empathic, analytical, warm, sharply observant and quick in recognising patterns. I like to create clear frameworks to support depth, trust and spaciousness.

Contact Karlijn

Leon Coenen

He/him or They/them

I identify as transgender, queer, Dutch, passionate about people, diversity and inclusivity, poet, highly educated, middle-class, raised in a city and complex neighborhood, social worker, work experience in healthcare
Writer of poems about our deepest being and the journey as an authentic human being in this world, coach and founder of Dapper Mens || Praktijk in Zelfontdekking.
Creating a safe environment for everyone is important to me so that all voices can be heard. This doesn’t happen automatically, and learning to put experiences into words creates openness and clarity. From my own experience, I know it’s important to have words for our experiences, and I also know that this often can evoke unrest and resistance. Nevertheless, it remains important to continue to create space for ourselves through conversation. Addressing each other helps us gain more understanding, appreciation, and acceptance for one another. I would like to contribute in making it easier to address each other about our actions and to take responsibility, to create space for everyone and their experiences, and in doing so building a safe community together.
People call me friendly, attentive, empathetic, involved and strong in discussing complicated topics such as gender diversity

Contact Leon

Marcelle Mulder

She/her

I identify as a woman, feminist, sex-positive, non-monogamous, daughter, mother, partner, white, and privileged. I grew up in a Catholic entrepreneurial family in a village in North Holland.
I am a humanist spiritual counselor and work as an inspirer, activist, storyteller, and publicist in the fields of feminism, sexuality, relational diversity, and aging. I am an ambassador for Lust op Leeftijd at the Leyden Academy on Vitality and Aging. I tell sex-related stories at Wrijving. Together with two fellow humanist spiritual counselors, I organize evenings called Vrijmoedig spreken over seks (Speaking Boldly About Sex). I am an active member of Seksueel Welzijn Nederland (Sexual Wellbeing Netherlands). I am also working on a book about my polyamorous life.
I write about these topics on LinkedIn and may do so through Signal, newsletters, or Instagram in the future, although I am not very practiced in those media and I’m not sure they are truly mine.
I find it important to take responsibility for what I do, write, and share, and for what that may evoke in others. These topics are touching, vulnerable, and while my intention is to inspire rather than unsettle, the latter could still happen. That is why I find it important to mirror, reflect, and, if needed, hold one another accountable for our actions.
People describe me as warm, clear, articulate, heartfelt, intelligent, inspiring, enthusiastic, playful, bold, and loyal. They say that with me, talking about sex and how you experience it is not scary or inappropriate, but open, inviting, and safe.

Contact Marcelle