TL;DR: Refunds are limited (with admin costs); reselling is allowed; the organizer does not mediate resales.

• See Terms and Conditions for refund options.
• You may sell your ticket up to the last moment (see rules below).

Policy:

• No refunds within a month to the event.
• There are administration costs involved with refunds.
• Refunds are only possible for the original ticket buyer.
• If you sell your ticket to someone else, a refund is no longer possible.

TL;DR: Prices and ticket types are listed in the ticket shop.

• You can find this information in the ticket shop.
• There is a limited amount of budget tickets for people with limited financial resources.

TL;DR: Pricing balances quality and accessibility; budget options exist.

• There are budget tickets for people with limited financial resources.
• If you cannot afford an event, you can reach out to see if there is an option.

TL;DR: Gendered tickets help prevent overrepresentation and support a balanced container.

• Tickets exist for male, female, and other*.
• *“Other” is a practical category; it may not fit everyone.

Policy:

• Only buy a ticket that matches the gender you identify with.
• Sold out means sold out.
• Buying a ticket for a gender you do not identify with can result in refusal at the door without refund.

TL;DR: No.

Policy: It is not allowed to sell tickets with a profit.

TL;DR: It happens, especially in public places. Be cautious.

• Be careful with public Facebook profiles and sellers offering many tickets.
• Buying and selling tickets is at your own risk.
• Exploring Deeper does not mediate ticket sales.
• Tickets sold in the Signal group are usually safe.

TL;DR: No, because it functions like a double booking from an organizer’s perspective.

• If one paid spot could be moved to another event, it would block two events with one payment.
• Reselling your ticket is the intended solution.

TL;DR: No.

Policy:

• If you do, you will not be let in and you will not receive a refund.
• Random checks are done for “other” tickets bought after male tickets have sold out.

TL;DR: Buy the correct ticket type, ensure you have all info, and handle prerequisites by email.

• You can only buy tickets that respect the gender you identify with.
• You are responsible for receiving all event information from the seller.
• If an event has prerequisites, the new buyer must email Wilrieke the answers (reply to the Joining Instructions email).

TL;DR: Use the right channel, do not profit, only sell to the same gender category, and forward all emails.

You are welcome to sell the ticket wherever you want. Think of TicketSwap, your own channels. As a service, Exploring Deeper offers a Signal group for buying/selling tickets.

• On Signal: sell in the appropriate group; mention the date and title.
• Mention amount and ticket type (budget/regular, male/female/other).
• Do not ask more money than you paid (less is fine).
• Only sell to someone who identifies with the same gender category as on the ticket.
• You must forward: the ticket, joining instructions, aftercare email, and other order emails.
• For events with prerequisites: forward the entry questions and tell the buyer to email their responses.

Service note: Exploring Deeper offers Signal as a service. Ticket resales are not monitored, and Exploring Deeper does not mediate disputes between buyers and sellers.

TL;DR: If you do not provide the prerequisite answers before arriving, you cannot enter.

Policy:

• Answers must be emailed before arriving (reply to the Joining Instructions email).
• If needed, show the sent email at the door as proof.

Exploring Kink – Edges

1. I am aware this is NOT a beginner’s workshop: …
2. I have been to these workshops of Wilrieke … : …
3. I have experience with kink elsewhere … : …

Exploring Kink – Deepening D/s power dynamics

1. I am aware that for this workshop, prior experience is recommended: …
2. I have done these kink-related workshops with Wilrieke: …
3. I have experience elsewhere, and I am familiar with Wilrieke’s way of teaching: …

Therapeutic Kink

1. I am aware this is NOT a beginner’s workshop: …
2. I have been to these workshops of Wilrieke … : …
3. I have experience with kink elsewhere … : …

Dark Red Play Party

1. Have you read the requirements for this Dark Red Event and know the consequences of not meeting them?
2. To which Red Events by Exploring Deeper/Wilrieke Sophia have you been? …
3. If less than three: to which THREE other RED level alike events have you been?: …

TL;DR: Late arrival, unmet prerequisites, or invalid ticket resale/buy rules can lead to refusal without refund.

Policy:

1. Arriving too late (beyond the starting time).
2. Not meeting prerequisite criteria.
3. Not meeting criteria for (re-)selling a ticket, or not sending prerequisite answers before the event.

TL;DR: Arriving late may mean no entry and no refund.

Policy:

• The start of an event is part of the container.
• If you arrive after the official start time, access may be refused.
• In that case, there is no right to a refund.

Why this rule exists:

• The opening includes essential information about consent, safety, and group agreements.
• Late arrival disrupts group cohesion and the sense of safety in the room.
• It is not always possible, or safe, to integrate people after the event has started.

Practical tips:

• Plan to arrive well on time.
• Account for public transport delays, parking, and time to settle in.
• If in doubt, assume you need to arrive earlier rather than “just on time.”
• Send a text message to the number you received in the Joining Instructions email before the event’s starting time to contact the team and inquire about the possibility of letting you in.

TL;DR: For events with shared meals: vegetarian potluck. Tea, water, and snacks are typically available.

• Bring vegetarian food to share (a bit extra is appreciated).
• Homemade or store-bought is both welcome.
• Tea, water, and snacks are generally provided.

TL;DR: Lodging is not included unless explicitly stated. Nearby hotel suggestions depend on the venue.

Utrecht

• Most options are around Utrecht Central Station.

Amsterdam (Weesperzijde)

• Common nearby option: Volkshotel.

Amsterdam (Baarsjesweg)

• Common nearby options: Hotel Not Hotel, Conscious Hotel Vondelpark, Hotel Heye 130.

TL;DR: For play parties: this is optional, if you know the basics and bring safety tools.

• Bringing things is optional.
• Only bring ropes/toys if you are familiar with basic safety and consent practices.
• Bring safety shears if you bring rope.
• We always bring toys and items to play with and try out.

TL;DR: Exploring Deeper provides a range of safer sex materials at relevant events; bring any specific personal needs.

• Hand sanitizer is available.
• For Pink-level events: gloves and topic-related materials may be present (depending on the event).
• For Red-level play parties: typically condoms (incl. vegan/latex-free/sizes), dental dams, lubes, gloves, and related items.
• If you need a specific material, size, or brand, bring your own to be sure.

TL;DR: With a waterproof, mattress-size sheet/protector you are always good. No sheet means no play.

Policy:

• No sheet = no play (strictly enforced).

Your sheet must be:

• White event: sheet is recommended
• Pink event: sheet is obligated.
• Red event: waterproof sheet is obligated.
• At least mattress size (matresses in the room are 80 × 200 cm).
• Waterproof.
• Comfortable for you to lie on.

Practical options:

• A mattress protector (e.g., from IKEA/Kwantum) plus a towel/blanket on top (= my personal recommendation).
• Liberator Fascinator Waterproof Throw.
• Splash Blanket.
• Waterproof fleece pet blankets.
• A vinyl sheet (with a cotton sheet on top for comfort).

Extra tips:

• Wash after each use.
• Bring a small towel for quick clean-up.

TL;DR: Yes, if it is within the event’s container and based on explicit consent.

• Consent is required at every step.
• Be mindful of the event level (White/Pink/Red) and group agreements.
• There are usually several exercises where you can meet different people.

TL;DR: Yes. You can come with partner(s) and choose whether to stay together or explore separately.

• You can make agreements with your partner(s) before and during the event.
• Exercises are typically explained so you can choose what fits.

TL;DR: Clear communication, realistic pacing, and aftercare matter more than ‘doing it right’ or chasing quick highs. Preparation helps everyone feel safer.

Before the event:

• Talk well in advance about boundaries, desires, fears, and expectations.
• Be honest about what feels exciting, what feels tender, and what is currently a “no.”
• Remember that curiosity and consent can change over time, leave room for that.

If you come together:

• Agree on simple check-in signals you can use across the room (for example: thumbs up / sideways / down).
• Decide in advance how you will handle moments of insecurity, overwhelm, or sudden need for connection.
• Check in with each other after experiences with others, even if everything felt good.

Pacing:

• Going slower is usually safer than going too fast.
• You do not need to “use all the possibilities” of an event.
• It is okay to pause, renegotiate, or change your plans mid-event.

If your partner is not present:

• Make sure agreements are clear before the event, including what you want to share afterwards (and what not).
• Consider planning intentional check-in or aftercare time after the event.

Important: No exercise, interaction, or opportunity is more important than your relationship(s), nervous system, or sense of safety.

<p><strong>TL;DR:</strong> It varies by event type; typical ranges are 20–55.</p>
<ul>
<li>Weekends are often around 20–35 participants.</li>
<li>Play parties are often around 35–40 participants.</li>
<li>A common “ideal” play party size is roughly 30–50.</li>
</ul>

TL;DR: Ticket sales are managed to reduce overrepresentation; last-minute changes can still shift the balance.

• All genders are welcome.
• Tickets are structured (male, female, and other identifying beings) to support a balanced group container.
• Cancellations may change the final ratio.

TL;DR: The range is broad (18–80+), commonly with many participants between roughly 25–45 and a meaningful 45–60 group as well.

• Legal adults of all ages are welcome.
• The exact distribution varies per event.

TL;DR: In practice, age is rarely the deciding factor. People tend to choose based on connection, presence, and mutual yes.

• There is a wide age range in the community.
• People’s choices are usually influenced more by comfort, consent, and chemistry than by age alone.

TL;DR: There is no hierarchy. Choose based on your needs, curiosity, and the container (White/Pink/Red) that fits you.

• White is not “less” than Red; it is simply a different container.
• Each event lists its level and focus in the event description.
• If you are unsure, start with a lower-intensity container and build from there.

TL;DR: The color code indicates the container: White (no nudity/sexuality), Pink (sensual/partial nudity possible), Red (full nudity and sexual interaction possible).

• White: Clothes on; no nudity; no sexual interactions.
• Pink: Partial nudity can be welcome; sensuality can be present; genitals stay covered.
• Red: Full nudity is welcome; sexual interactions can be part of the space (always consent-based).

TL;DR: The space is designed without heteronormative assumptions. It is queer-centered, and cis/straight people are welcome.

• Exercises are not based on gender roles or assumed attraction.
• Partnering is not “man/woman by default.”
• Language aims to be inclusive (pronouns, relationship structures, bodies, identities).

TL;DR: That is the intention. Many people experience this as a place where they can be themselves, at their own pace.

• The team aims to welcome newcomers and support orientation.
• You are invited to participate in a way that matches your comfort level.

<p><strong>TL;DR:</strong> No. There is a zero-tolerance policy for mind-altering substances.</p>
<p><strong>Policy:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>No drugs or alcohol are welcome in the space.</li>
<li>Exception: chocolate.</li>
<li>There is tolerance for coffee.</li>
</ul>

TL;DR: Yes – actively and intentionally.

• The community includes many LGBTQ+ participants (the number per event may vary).
• The team aims for an inclusive container and does not tolerate discrimination, transphobia, homophobia, etc.
• Wilrieke identfies as queer themselves, as do most of their team.
• No exercises are ever based on gender or sexual preference.

TL;DR: Yes, you are welcome.

• This is queer-centered and straight-friendly.
• Hate, discrimination, or exclusion are not tolerated in the space.

TL;DR: Unless explicitly stated otherwise, cis people will likely be present. You are welcome, and you can choose your own interactions.

• Most events are not identity-exclusive unless explicitly stated.
• You can choose not to engage with certain people and still participate.

TL;DR: Then you don’t. “No” is valid, and sitting out is always allowed.

• You can choose not to touch, and adapt exercises.
• You can keep clothes on.
• You can opt out of exercises, or take breaks.
• No one is entitled to your touch.

TL;DR: You choose who you touch, but the space is not organized around gendered entitlement. You may need to adapt (or sit out) depending on what is available and mutually desired.

• You are responsible for your own boundaries and choices.
• Other people are equally free to choose their boundaries and choices.

Policy:

• Homophobia, transphobia, and discrimination are not tolerated.
• Preferences and boundaries are respected; entitlement is not.
• We do not guarantee partners for exercises.
• You can always sit out an exercise if you don’t find someone you want to partner up with.

TL;DR: Often yes. There are support options, though what is possible depends on the venue and event type.

• There usually is an ‘introvert corner’; non-engagement / quiet space (varies per venue).
• You can use noise-canceling headphones or a blindfold if helpful (we provide them).
• Taking breaks is welcome; you can rejoin at your own pace.
• Check the venue accessibility notes for the specific event location.

TL;DR: Usually not, unless it is needed for voice/room size (or specific larger events).

• Most events are facilitated without microphones.
• In some venues or festival-like settings, a microphone may be used for accessibility and clarity, or when Wilrieke’s voice may be weak that day.

TL;DR: English, unless everyone in the room understands Dutch.

• The default is English so international participants can join.
• If it is clearly a fully Dutch-speaking group, Dutch may be used.

TL;DR: If it is not on the calendar, it is not announced yet. The newsletter is the most reliable way to stay updated.

• If it is not on the calendar, it is not planned (or not ready to announce).
• Sign up for the newsletter for monthly updates.
• Signal channels also share updates.

TL;DR: If you do not want direct contact, you can still share your experience through a supported route.

• You can email someone from Wilrieke’s accountability pod and ask them to forward your email to Wilrieke anonymously.
• If you prefer not to be named, say so explicitly in your first message.

Note: it may be more difficult to support you, or take actions towards the person allegedly causing harm when you are anonymous, but confidentiality and care are central priorities.

TL;DR: Reach out about anything that impacts your sense of safety, consent, boundaries, or wellbeing, online or offline.

• Touch that did not feel consensual (or consent felt unclear/pressured).
• Repeated boundary crossings after a clear “no.”
• Unwanted sexual messages or persistent flirting in spaces/events where that is not appropriate.
• Manipulation, coercion, isolation attempts, or guilt/pressure tactics.
• Harassment, discrimination, or unsafe dynamics in chats.
• Anything that leaves you doubting yourself, feeling unsafe, or reluctant to return.

Also valid: “Nothing dramatic happened, but something felt off.” You can still reach out.

TL;DR: You will be taken seriously, and the response will be consent-based, proportional, and focused on safety.

• You may be asked a few clarifying questions.
• Different options can be discussed: listening/support, mediation, boundaries, a warning, a process, or restricting access.
• You will not be pushed into steps you do not want; your capacity and consent matter.

Important: In situations that impact community safety, the organizer may still need to act (even if you prefer full confidentiality). If so, that will be handled with care and the minimum disclosure needed.

TL;DR: Central location; stairs required; limited accessibility.

Traveling:

• Located near Amstel Station.
• Reachable by train, metro, tram, and bus.
• Paid parking is available nearby.

Accessibility:

• The specific venue for this weekend is located on the ground floor of a building.
• There is a height difference to enter the venue through the front door that may cause problems for wheelchairs. There is a backdoor without height differences.
• There is a bathroom that is not a specific all-access bathroom, but that is fairly spacious and private.
• There are stairs to reach the kitchen area.
• There are mattresses and you can lie down as much as you can.
• There is a small fridge. There are no cooking/heating facilities.
• There are (shared) showers.
• There is a breakout room with minimal stimuli (this is also the place where bags and coats are put).

Notes: If you have specific accessibility needs, consider reaching out in advance to check what is possible for this venue.

TL;DR: Central location; stairs required; limited accessibility.

Traveling:

• Located near Amstel Station.
• Reachable by train, metro, tram, and bus.
• Paid parking is available nearby.

Accessibility:

• The space is upstairs.
• There are steep stairs to access the building. There is no elevator.
• Once inside, there are bathrooms on the workshop floor – the bathrooms are not specifically all-access.
• There are mattresses and you can lie down as much as you can.
• There is a separate room where bags etc can be stored, which can also be used as an outbreak room with minimalized stimuli.
• There is a small fridge.
• There are no cooking/heating facilities.
• There are (shared) showers.

Notes: If you have specific accessibility needs, consider reaching out in advance to check what is possible for this venue.

TL;DR: Well connected by public transport; stairs are involved; accessibility is limited.

Traveling:

• Reachable by tram and bus.
• Street parking is available (paid).

Accessibility:

• The space is on the ground floor of a building.
• The main entrance is accessible, but there is a step towards the workshop room. This is avoidable via the side entrance from the street.
• There is an all-access bathroom in the kitchen/hall after the main entrance.
• The lighting of the studio has a slight vibration to it that is occasionally hard to avoid. There is a ventilation system that hums in the background.
• This specific venue unfortunately has NO MATTRESSES – we ask our participants to bring mattresses themselves (we provide several for folks who can’t bring their own).
• There is a large fridge in the workshop space.
• There is a microwave in the hallway.
• There are no showers.

Notes: If you have specific accessibility needs, consider reaching out in advance to check what is possible for this venue.

TL;DR: Yes—there is a media overview page.

• Please see the Media page for an overview of appearances and publications.

TL;DR: Not when they are assiting that event, with boundaries when they are a participant in another event.

• Please see Team Guidelines for how assistant roles work and what changes when someone participates as a participant.
• In short: When team members are in the assistant role, they do not play with participants.
• Team members may participate in events where they are not part of the team. They operate under team agreements with specific boundaries.

TL;DR: Yes, but only outside the official Exploring Deeper channels.

• You are welcome to organize informal meetups with people you met.
• For clarity and responsibility, self-organised meetups should happen outside official Exploring Deeper channels (i.e. the Signal groups, the newsletter, social media, or website).

Policy:

• If something is announced through official Exploring Deeper channels, Exploring Deeper becomes responsible for it.
• Therefore, self-organised meetups should not be announced through official channels.

TL;DR: No.

Policy: There is a zero-tolerance policy for mind-altering substances, including alcohol.

TL;DR: Please check the protocols page for the most current guidance.

• Please see Covid & Monkeypox Protocols for the latest version (this information can change).

TL;DR: STI risk exists in intimate spaces; bring personal responsibility and choose your level of risk.

• Safer sex materials are provided at relevant events, and you can bring your own preferred items.
• Consider regular testing if you are sexually active in intimate community spaces.
• If you have symptoms, a recent outbreak, or a known exposure: do not attend until you are fully recovered and/or have tested negative after the relevant window.
• You may be able to participate with an active outbreak when you prevent spreading (i.e. no kissing with a herpes outbreak on the mouth, clothes on with a genital outbreak).

Note: This is general information and not medical advice. If you have concerns, consult a medical professional or local sexual health clinic.

TL;DR: Yes- usually. Check your spam, and note that unsubscribing can stop these emails.

• Event emails are typically sent in advance (timing depends on the event).
• Please check your spam folder.
• If you unsubscribed from emails, you may not receive important event information.
• If you did not receive information by about five days before the event, please reach out (but check your spam folder first).

TL;DR: Exploring Deeper operates as a B.V.

• Exploring Deeper is a B.V. (limited company).
• You can find Exploring Deeper in the Dutch Chamber of Commerce under number 97103616.