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SPECIAL: Red Play Party & How to be Successful at Play Parties workshop with Reid Mihalko (USA) & Wilrieke Sophia (NL)

December 7 @ 14:00 - 22:00 CET

This is a special edition of the Red Play Party you know from Wilrieke Sophia – this time with famous guest facilitator Reid Mihalko (USA) who will offer an afternoon workshop for beginners ánd advanced! IT IS ALSO WILRIEKE’S BIRTHDAY!

‘Being Successful at Play Parties’ is a workshop by Reid Mihalko that will help both beginners and more advanced. Do you attend play parties or are thinking about attending one? Ever wonder how complete strangers go from finding that spark to fanning the flames of flirtation and then stoking (and stroking!) hawt, blazing encounters? Or how folks avoid picking the wrong people to hook up with? Or how to NOT the moment so you avoid bringing the sexy moment to a crashing halt?

YOU are not alone! And the good news is that there are SO MANY ways to be successful at a play party that never have to mean getting naked or getting freaky! (But can if that’s what you want.)

This is a Temple Night, or the Red Play Party as created by Exploring Deeper: a day of sensual, luscious exploration in an all-embracing environment of like-minded people!

TL:DR
➤ This event is a wonderful first play party to go to, ánd we recommend at least some experience in sex-positive spaces. You should be comfortable (though absolutely not obliged to participate in – on the contrary) with nudity and explicit action in the space. Experience with workshops related to tantra, kink, touch, cuddles, etc will do (email/pm Wilrieke if you are not sure whether this is for you now).
➤ Be aware that these spaces zoom in on your ease & challenges. You need to be comfortable with that.
➤ We will send you an email with practical information a few days before the event. Make sure to sign up with your most used email address (when you have unsubscribed from our newsletter, our emails can’t reach you).

FOR WHO IS THIS EVENT?
This event welcomes folks from all walks of life. We are LGBTQIIA+ informed (Wilrieke and most of their team identify as such), slut-friendly, trauma-informed, and non-monogamy informed. White folks are overrepresented in our team and life experiences are colored through that lens. We do come from different social backgrounds and have different life experiences when it comes to health, wealth, neurodiversity, gender, sexual orientation, etc.
We welcome people with specific needs as much as able-bodied folks. Feel free to reach out if you have specific needs that you wish to share with us.

WHAT THE DAY LOOKS LIKE
The doors open half an hour before the starting time. Make sure to be on time! Once we have started we cannot let latecomers in!

ABOUT THE AFTERNOON WORKSHOP: FROM FLIRTING TO F@CKING – HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL AT SXX PARTIES
If you want to feel more confident in how you flirt and more relaxed in navigating play party spaces… If you want to become more competent and savvy in how you negotiate pick-up play 1-on-1 or in group scenes at sexy events… Come join professional sex and relationship geek and play party facilitator, Reid Mihalko for an informative and humorous evening of learning how to go from flirting to fucking and everything in between!

In this workshop with time get your questions answered and practice your flirtation skills after, we will cover:
– How to flirt and get things going without being creepy!
– The three biggest mistakes even smart people make when trying to make a connection and take it further…
– Ways to make consent conversations sexy – CREATE THE MOOD rather than ruin it!
– How to tell when you shouldn’t play with someone(s)
– Icebreaking games you can use at parties (even when you’re the shyest person in the room!)
– Ways to create safer space for others and build a reputation for being someone folks WANT to play with…
– Whether you’ve been to a 1000 play parties like Reid, or are considering going to your first… This event is designed to help you feel more comfortable and confident at your next play party!

ABOUT THE PLAY PARTY
After dinner, there’s the optional safer sex and play party etiquette talk for those who are new – or just as a reminder. There’s space for you to ask your questions.
We slowly start the program with dancing and some exercises again. This transitions into a free flow where you design your own experience. The team and I are available for support and inspiration – or a chat at the bar.

All genders, bodies, and orientations are welcome. This day has no expectations or requirements. It is a space to be expressed and celebrated, to explore! You are welcome with all that you bring and who you are – at this moment.

This event is NOT for you if:
. you are not willing to accept another person’s ‘no’
. this is an event for people with at least some experience in s-positive spaces, and/or workshops on topics like tantra, kink, BDSM, cuddling, or other forms of intimacy. You should be comfortable (though absolutely not obliged to participate in – on the contrary) with unclothed people and explicit action in the space. (When in doubt, send Wilrieke a message to check in whether this is for you).
. we actively stand for inclusion. This means that in the event no racism, discrimination, misogyny, ableism, or shaming of bodies, sexualities, gender etc are tolerated. If this is something you cannot commit to, this is not your community.
. you are looking for easy sex. You won’t find it here.

This is a RED event.

ABOUT REID MIHALKO (USA)
As seen on NETFLIX’ “Chelsea Does…” alongside Chelsea Handler, Reid Mihalko (he/him) of ReidAboutSex.com is an internationally known sex and relationship educator helping adults become the change they want to see in the bedroom by creating more self-esteem, self-confidence, and greater health and accountability in their relationships and sex lives. Reid uses an inspiring mixture of humor, personal stories, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information to change the lives of his audiences and clients.

In early 2018, some very brave people came forward during #MeToo sharing harms that Reid had caused them. Reid stepped down from teaching and initiated a restorative justice-based accountability process to address his misconduct and make amends if and where possible. The formal, year-long process along with Reid’s apology and resources were shared publicly and can be found at TinyURL.com/reidaccountability. Going forward, Reid’s projects and appearances will include pointing people towards resources and experts on restorative and transformative justice-based accountability processes.

Reid’s workshops and college lectures have been attended by over 60,000 people from all over the globe. His Youtube videos have been viewed over 5 million times. He has appeared in media such as Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, NETFLIX, Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, The Washington Post, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.
Reid is also founder of Sex Geek Summer Camp, Sex Geek Conservatory, and Sex Geek School for Gifted Sex Geeks, which help sex educators learn valuable business skills that allow them to reach more people with greater ease, transform more lives, and make a better living as sexperts.

Follow @ReidAboutSex >
Instagram: https://instagram/ReidAboutSex
Facebook: https://facebook.com/ReidAboutSex
YouTube: https://youtube.com/ReidAboutSex

ABOUT WILRIEKE SOPHIA
Wilrieke Sophia (they/them) is a sex & intimacy educator, (TEDx) speaker, advisor & coach for creative makers and scientists, author, and founder of Exploring Deeper and Cuddle Workshops International.

The main focus of their work is empowerment through self-knowledge and understanding, radical self-inclusion, the embodied experiencing of boundaries and desires, and an extensive practice of consent – all based on a foundation of trauma awareness and neuroscience, embedded in experiential spaces based on interpersonal connective practices. They collaborate with artists and scientists, and are a supervisor and mentor.

With their project Red Flags in Workshops, Wilrieke creates zines and other free materials on e.g. accountability, abuse, and power dynamics in the intimacy and wellness communities.

More about Wilrieke:

www.wilriekesophia.com
www.exploringdeeper.com
www.redflagsinworkshops.com

SOME PRACTICAL INFORMATION
Two weeks before the event, you will receive an email with detailed information for this day including the address and what to bring. Make sure you sign up with the email address that you use. Check your spam filter if you did not receive an email seven days before the event (if you have unsubscribed from our newsletter, these emails cannot reach you!).

On this page, you find elaborate information about our events, and many frequently asked questions > www.exploringdeeper.com/FAQ

ACCESSIBILITY
This workshop space is called Awananda. The elevators in this building are out of function – the owner won’t fix this to our regret. There are stairs to enter the building. On the ground floor is an all-access bathroom. The workshop is on the first floor. There are two stairs to get there. There are several bathrooms on the first floor (no all-access bathrooms), and a kitchen with lunch facilities, including a fridge and a microwave. There are mattresses in the workshop space. There is no shower.


CHECK THE FAQ IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS ABOUT THE PRACTICAL SIDES OF OUR EVENTS, INCL WAITING LISTS ETC: www.exploringdeeper.com/faq

If you are curious about our Guidelines for Team Members, feel free to check the full document out here: https://exploringdeeper.com/ethics

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Venue

Utrecht Kanaalweg – see email

Organizers

Exploring Deeper
ReidAboutSex