This workshop is a blend of a classical cuddle workshop with (eclectiv neo-)tantra, and the element of multiple hand massage/touch.
Have you ever been touched or massaged by more than one person? Something very interesting happens when you are being touched by more than two hands: our brains lose track of where we are being touched. My personal experience is that multiple hand massage can be deeply relaxing, all the way up to mindblowing!
Note: if you prefer to do the touch and/or massage with just one partner, that’s absolutely okay!
This is not a workshop that focuses on the techniques of massage – focus is on connection, and asking for what you want. We will give you options and suggestions.
The event focuses on loving attention and touch. Although nudity is allowed (not obliged!), we stay away from sexuality these evenings. Bring a large towel and your favourite massage oil if you want! (We will bring a few options too).
This workshop is for both experienced and starting folks on the path of touch.
We always start with a moment to come to ourselves and let go of all the hustle and bustle of daily life. From there we will make contact with ourselves and with others through a few short exercises. After that we will make groups of maximum four people and take turns massaging/getting massaged. (Please note we do not make groups based on characteristics like gender.)
– We actively stand for inclusion. This means that in the event no racism, discrimination, misogyny, ableism, or shaming of bodies, s.xualities, gender etc are tolerated. If this is something you cannot commit to, this is not your community.
– Everybody is welcome although we try to prevent overrepresentation of any gender. This means there might be a slight disbalance in gender in the group. You work with who you want to work with; we don’t stimulate genderphobia (meaning we won’t actively pair you up with people of your preferred gender).
– When you are being disrespectful, crossing boundaries or show any other behaviour that affects the safety of the group, we can ask you to leave the workshop.
– We accept all political viewpoints and personal opinions, but we also actively stand against the spread of misinformation and disinformation. If you are looking for places to share your viewpoints on vaccine shedding, this is not your community.
– You are responsible for your own well-being. This means that you can express your boundaries at all times. We will never force you to do anything.
The event takes place in Utrecht, Kanaalweg. The exact location will be emailed to you in the week before the event.
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In the week before the event, you will receive an email with detailed information for this day including the address and what to bring. Make sure you sign up with the email address that you use. Check your spam filter if you did not receive an email seven days before the event (if you have unsubscribed from our newsletter, these emails cannot reach you!).
ACCESSIBILITY OF THE VENUE
The elevators in this building are out of function – the owner won’t fix this to our regret. There are stairs to enter the building. On the ground floor is an all-access bathroom. The workshop is on the first floor. There are two stairs to get there. There are several bathrooms on the first floor (no all-access bathrooms), and a kitchen with lunch facilities. There are mattresses in the workshop space.
WHAT DO I WEAR?
Wear what makes you feel comfortable during the workshops. Bring some layers, as you might get hot or cold. A bathing gown, lunghi/sarong may be nice to wrap around you in between turns.
HOW MUCH IS IT?
You find that info in the ticket shop. There is a limited amount of budget tickets, meant for people with limited financial resources. We trust you to choose the ticket that fits your situation.
WHY GENDERED TICKETS?
We want to include everyone, whatever your gender or identification is. That means there’s space for everyone, without one group getting overrepresented. Therefore there are tickets for people who identify themselves as male, female and other.
(We realize that there are many gender identities outside the binary norms. For practical reasons, we have summarized them as a category ‘other’ on the ticket sales pages. We apologize to anyone who does not feel represented by this category.)
Please only buy a ticket that represents your gender – and not any other ticket. Sold out = sold out.
WHAT IF I CAN’T COME ANYMORE?
There are administration costs involved, but refunds are possible. You are free to sell your ticket to someone else, you are welcome to use the Facebook Group Exploring Deeper Online Community
for this. We don’t mediate in selling tickets. (See Wilrieke’s terms and conditions
). Please respect the gender of the ticket, and in case we send pre/aftercare emails, forward them to the person you sold your ticket to.
WHAT IF TICKETS ARE SOLD OUT?
You can ask for a ticket at the Facebook-event itself or in the reaction under the post for this event in the Facebook Group Exploring Deeper Online Community
. Usually, there are multiple play parties planned ahead.
WHAT IF I DON’T FEEL LIKE TOUCHING SOMEONE?
Then you don’t. We will never push you to do anything, nor to do anything with anyone. You can come, decide to keep all your clothes on and not touch anyone – and that’s perfect. You can also always sit out an exercise.
Ticket holders will be informed prior to the event through email. Always check your SPAM folder. If you have signed out for Wilrieke’s emails, these emails won’t reach you. Reach out to Wilrieke if you did not get any information seven days before the event.
Who we are
About Wilrieke Sophia:
Wilrieke Sophia (they/them) is a sex & intimacy educator, conscious kink facilitator, intimacy activist, TEDx speaker, writer, and founder of Exploring Deeper and Cuddle Workshops International. They identify as queer, sex-positive, polyamorous and kinky. Wilrieke is based near Amsterdam, The Netherlands where they openly combine being a mother of three daughters with their work.
The main focus of their work is empowerment through self-knowledge and understanding, radical self-inclusion, the embodied experiencing of boundaries and desires, and an extensive practice of consent – all based on a foundation of trauma awareness and neuroscience, embedded in experiential spaces based on intimacy practices.
Wilrieke hosts s.x-positive retreats, play parties, teacher training, and festivals. In several projects with colleagues, Wilrieke creates workshops and materials on accountability, abuse and power dynamics in the intimacy and wellness communities.
About Exploring Deeper:
We all need touch. Here at Exploring Deeper we believe that satisfying intimacy needs to be available for everyone. To have that intimacy, a person needs to feel safe and secure in their own body. We need to know our boundaries and desires, and we need to know how to communicate them. How does a person change their life? By doing things differently, and then repeating that new way. When it comes to intimacy, our current society does not provide us with the means, tools, and place to practice our intimacy skills.
Exploring Deeper aims to create those spaces. Laboratories for exploring intimacy – deeper. We do that by creating events, sessions, materials, and professional training. All our products and services are based on the pillars of solidarity and inclusion. This means our events are meant to be a welcoming place to you, independent of race, gender, age (though 18+), s.xual orientation, relationship style, being neurodivergent or neurotypical, being disabled or non-disabled, or looks.
We acknowledge everyone is learning and may make mistakes in addressing others, ourselves included. Making mistakes is welcomed in our workshops. Intentionally causing harm by discrimination, racism, misogyny, shaming, bullying, spreading disinformation etc is not tolerated. As a team we are actively speaking up against these issues, and repeated misconduct will lead to remove the person causing harm from the workshop and potentially withhold access to future events.