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*NEW* Queer Tantra & Energy Sex

16/07/2022 @ 10:00 - 17/07/2022 @ 19:00 CEST

You may have heard of the different chakras: energy centres in different places in our bodies. You may have explored the chakras in tantra workshops or meditations. But you can also use the different flavours of the different chakras in sensual or sexy explorations.

You don’t need to take your clothes off to have amazing sex. You don’t need to touch your genitals to have sex. You don’t need to touch your genitals (or even any part of your body) to have amazing orgastic experiences.


Using the tantric aspects of breath, focus, intention and your whole body as an instrument.

Regardless of our gender or preferences, we all have receptive and penetrative qualities that we can use in all kinds of fun ways. In this workshop, we’ll explore those possibilities. This is a clothed (undies stay on) workshop that can be done with or without touch, with your own partner or buddies you find during the workshop.

Are you curious about what the world of tantra has to offer you?

Are you looking for a place that offers tantra outside of the heterosexual norm (but doesn’t exclude it either)?

Would you like to meet amazing people who can act as your research buddies, tantric mirrors, or your new friends?

Do you have no idea what tantra actually is, but you are curious about your relationship with yourself, with others, and with the world?

This workshop is all that – and then some more.

This workshop includes opportunities to:

  • learn what tantra is all about
  • practice impeccable consent – and how it brings safety for any kind of human interaction
  • learn cool skills like the microcosmic orbit
  • tickle all your chakras
  • learn some surprising simple hacks that may change your sex life forever
  • improve communication skills for your current and future relationships
  • experience your Inner Navigation System and how it tells you what to do
  • get to know amazing like-minded people in the best way!

This workshop is for both pragmatists and spiritual folks (I speak both neuroscience and woo-woo), singles, couples and other relationship constellations, folks and constellations of any gender, sexual preference etc, tantra-newbies and more seasoned practitioners.

We will use methodologies like meditation, breathwork, dance, sharing, touch, and consent-based practices. This is a pink workshop: undies stay on at all times, though partial nudity is welcomed (and never needed or obliged).

The weekend consists of exercises that you can do on your own, in two’s, or in larger groups. There will be sharings in smaller groups and in the whole group. Towards the end of the weekend there is a play party: a contained amount of time where you get to practice what you’ve learned freely with our support and guidance.

About the Tantra I teach

There are many flavours of tantra. The tantra I teach can be considered ‘eclectic neo-tantra’: tantra that is a mixture of different lineages and styles of tantra, brought to you through the lens of a white, queer, Dutch person socialized as a woman.

There were great masters who brought the original tantra to the western world. I haven’t learned from these masters directly but from their students (or their student’s students). Some of these lineages: Osho/Bhagwan Rashneesh, Chogyam Rinpoche, Crazy Wisdom, Tao Tantra, and Kashmiri Shaivism.

From these lineages come masters with lots of wisdom, but also lineages that are often not free from abusive practices. That’s why I weave neuroscience and a lot of consent practices into my teachings.

This event welcomes folks from all walks of life. We are LGBTQIIA+ informed (Wilrieke and most of her team identify as such), slut-friendly, trauma-informed, and non-monogamy informed. White folks are overrepresented in our team and life experiences are coloured through that lens. We do come from different social backgrounds and have different life experiences when it comes to health, wealth, neurodiversity, gender, sexual orientation, etc.

We welcome disabled folks and have good experiences with you participating in our events and sessions. Some of our venues include stairs or other challenges, but usually, we have a very helpful team of assistants who lovingly support you, e.g. by carrying you, your wheelchair up and down stairs, holding doors for you, or assisting in other ways. If you have a person that supports you in daily activities that you need to bring for your care, they can of course come with you without buying a ticket. Please reach out if you have special needs, and we will discuss how we can support you. In case we cannot comfort your needs, we will honestly let you know.

The specific venue for this weekend is located on the first floor of a building with stairs towards the entrance and stairs inside. The elevators are unfortunately out of service (despite requests to fix them). There is a bathroom for disabled folks on the ground floor and a spacious bathroom on the workshop floor. We are very aware this venue isn’t as wheelchair accessible as we hope our venues to be. We are willing to support you in all ways we can to make it possible for you to join.

What the weekend looks like:

This weekend is designed as a deep-dive into the world of tantra. The first day is an intensive day. After a welcome and introductions, we start playing with tuning into your body as an Inner Navigation System. We will practice with different tantric modalities, meditations and touch-based exercises.

On the second day, we will take time sharing about our experiences and learning from each other, and deepen our play. The second part of this day is designed as a Play Party where you can practice with other people, supported by Wilrieke and her amazing team. If you want to practice specific things, ask questions (we love to geek out!), have us look over your shoulder, or dance and integrate – there’s space for it all!


Saturday: 10.00h – 18.00h (doors open at 9.30h)

Sunday: 11.00h – 19.00h

This event is for you if:

  • you are curious about tantra, and look for a great way to start or continue your journey
  • you’re curious about the tantra I teach
  • you want to broaden your display of sexy skills
  • you want to feel more secure about yourself and learn how to step up for yourself

You don’t need prior experience to enter this workshop. If you wish to gain some prior experience we have (tantric) cuddle workshops that offer a great preface to this workshop. Check our calendar here for upcoming events!

You can come alone (many people do), with your partner/s or friend/s. Couples may choose to stay together if that feels the most important for them.

This event is NOT for you if:

  • you are not willing to accept another person’s ‘no’
  • we actively stand for inclusion. This means that in the event no racism, discrimination, misogyny, ableism, or shaming of bodies, sexualities, gender etc are tolerated. If this is something you cannot commit to, this is not your community.
  • we accept all political viewpoints and personal opinions, but we also actively stand against the spread of misinformation and disinformation. If you are looking for places to share your viewpoints on vaccine shedding, this is not your community.
  • we MAY ask for a covid quick test, vaccine, or another way to minimise the risk of spreading covid at this event. If this is principally against your values, you may want to reconsider signing up.
  • you are looking for easy sex. You won’t find it here.


About Wilrieke Sophia:

Wilrieke Sophia (they/them) is a sex & intimacy educator, conscious kink facilitator, intimacy activist, TEDx speaker, writer, and founder of Exploring Deeper and Cuddle Workshops International. They identify as queer, sex-positive, polyamorous and kinky. Wilrieke is based near Amsterdam, The Netherlands where they openly combine being a mother of three daughters with their work.

The main focus of their work is empowerment through self-knowledge and understanding, radical self-inclusion, the embodied experiencing of boundaries and desires, and an extensive practice of consent – all based on a foundation of trauma awareness and neuroscience, embedded in experiential spaces based on intimacy practices. Wilrieke hosts sex-positive retreats, play parties, teacher training, and festivals. In several projects with colleagues, Wilrieke creates workshops and materials on accountability, abuse and power dynamics in the intimacy and wellness communities.

About Exploring Deeper:

We all need touch. Here at Exploring Deeper we believe that satisfying intimacy needs to be available for everyone. To have that intimacy, a person needs to feel safe and secure in their own body. We need to know our boundaries and desires, and we need to know how to communicate them. How does a person change their life? By doing things differently, and then repeating that new way. When it comes to intimacy, our current society does not provide us with the means, tools, and a place to practice our intimacy skills.

Exploring Deeper aims to create those spaces. Laboratories for exploring intimacy – deeper. We do that by creating events, sessions, materials, and professional training. All our products and services are based on the pillars of solidarity and inclusion. This means our events are meant to be a welcoming place to you, independent of race, gender, age (though 18+), sexual orientation, relationship style, being neurodivergent or neurotypical, being disabled or non-disabled, or looks.

We acknowledge everyone is learning and may make mistakes in addressing others, ourselves included. Making mistakes is welcomed in our workshops. Intentionally causing harm by discrimination, racism, misogyny, shaming, bullying, spreading disinformation etc is not tolerated. As a team, we are actively speaking up against these issues, and repeated misconduct will lead to removing the person causing harm from the workshop and potentially withholding access to future events.

A few words on team ethics:

Integrity and creating a safer space is super important to us, the team of Exploring Deeper. You, the participants, are not our personal dating pool. There are power dynamics that can be juicy, but also abusive.

Members of our team, regardless of their role (which may be facilitator, assistant, co-facilitator, helper or participant) will not individually date people they meet in the workshop. They will not have any form of fluid exchange with participants.

We might support you in your exercises or provide a service during the play party (we’re always keen on helping you improve your spanking skills for example!). If we have pre-existing partners or lovers in the workshop, we will disclose that at the opening of the workshop when appropriate.

If you are curious about our Guidelines for Team Members, feel free to check the full document out here.

Some practicalities

In the week before the event, you will receive an email with detailed information for this training. Make sure you sign up with an email address that you use. Check your spam filter if you did not receive an email seven days before the event.


The weekend takes place in Utrecht at the Kanaalweg 84A.

Reaching the venue:

CAR – Use www.routenet.nl to plan your route. Maybe carpooling feels like an option for you; feel free to post your request in de event on Facebook.

PARKING – Parking is free on the private parking of the venue. 

PUBLIC TRANSPORT – From Utrecht CS is about 15-minute walk. Use www.9292ov.nl to plan your trip.


We will provide tea, water, and some chocolate. Bring lunch, and feel free to bring snacks to share!


Wear what makes you feel comfortable during the workshops. Bring some layers, as you might get hot or cold. If you feel like dressing up, e.g. for the play party – bring some options to play with!


You find that info in the ticket shop. There is a limited amount of budget tickets, meant for people with limited financial resources. We trust you to choose the ticket that fits your situation.


We want to include everyone, whatever your gender or identification is. That means there’s space for everyone, without one group getting overrepresented. Therefore there are tickets for people who identify themselves as male, female and other.

(We realize that there are many gender identities outside the binary norms. For practical reasons, we have summarized them as a category ‘other’ on the ticket sales pages. We apologize to anyone who does not feel represented by this category.)

Please only buy a ticket that represents your gender – and not any other ticket. Sold out = sold out.


We use a system of colours to explain what happens in an event with regards to sexuality:

  • White: clothes stay on, there is no sexuality or nudity. (e.g. cuddle workshops.)
  • Pink: partial nudity is allowed but genitals stay covered. Sensual play is possible. (e.g. energy sex workshops, exploring tantra and pink play parties.)
  • Red: full nudïty and sexual interactions are possible (e.g. exploring kink, kinky tantra, red play parties.)

There are administration costs involved, but refunds are possible within certain timeframes. You are free to sell your ticket to someone else. We don’t mediate in selling tickets. Please respect the gender of the ticket, and in case we send pre/aftercare emails, forward them to the person you sold your ticket to. Check all details in our terms and conditions.


You can ask for a ticket in the FB-event. 


Then you don’t. We will never push you to do anything, nor to do anything with anyone. You can come, decide to keep all your clothes on and not touch anyone – and that’s perfect. You can also always sit out an exercise.


The specific venue for this weekend is located on the first floor of a building with stairs towards the entrance and stairs inside. The elevators are unfortunately out of service (despite requests to fix them). There is a bathroom for disabled folks on the ground floor and a spacious bathroom on the workshop floor. We are very aware this venue isn’t as wheelchair accessible as we hope our venues to be. We are willing to support you in all ways we can to make it possible for you to join.

COVID: Check our COVID-19 protocols here, and make sure you understand our cancellation policy. We may ask for a self-test of max 24hr old for this event.

Ticket holders will be informed prior to the event through email. Always check your SPAM folder. If you have signed out for Wilrieke’s emails, these emails won’t reach you. Reach out to Wilrieke if you did not get any information five days before the event.

For this workshop, Exploring Deeper’s Terms and Conditions apply.

To stay updated about workshops, events, and to read Wilrieke’s blog (with hundreds of articles and videos about topics like non-monogamy, sexuality and dealing with insecurities), check www.exploringdeeper.com and sign up for our newsletter!



16/07/2022 @ 10:00 CEST
17/07/2022 @ 19:00 CEST
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Kanaalweg 84A


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