Exploring Kink is a way to add spice, depth and presence to all your relationships. In this workshop, we combine principles of consent and (neo-)tantra with the magical realms of BDSM.
This workshop includes opportunities to:
This is Exploring Kink, Step 1: The Intensive, a weekend of exploring Kink in an intuitive, neo-tantric way. You will learn how the practices of kink, consent, and (neo)tantra are no opposites, but complementary pathways that can increase each other’s depth and effect.
You can come alone (many people do), with your partner/s or friend/s. Couples may choose to stay together if that feels the most important for them. This event welcomes all levels of play. Some experience with workshops in intimacy (tantra, kink, cuddling, massage) is recommended but not obligatory.
What the weekend looks like:
This weekend is designed as a full-on deep dive into the world of kink. The first day is an intensive day. After a welcome and introductions, we start playing with tuning into your body as an Inner Navigation System. Always get to know where the breaks are before we speed up! We will play with the polarities of Domination and surrender, leading and following. In the second part of the day, you will get to know different ways of playing with impact. You will get to know your hands as amazing tools for impact play, and you have the opportunity to try different impact play tools like floggers, canes and paddles.
On the second day, we will take time sharing about our experiences and learn from each other. Then we will bring in some new elements into your play, working with different senses. The second part of this day is designed as a Play Party where you can practice with amazing people, supported by Wilrieke and her amazing team. If you want to practice specific things, ask questions (we love to geek out!), have us look over your shoulder, or dance and integrate – there’s space for it all!
Saturday: 10.00h – 18.00h (doors open at 9.30h)
Sunday: 11.00h – 19.00h
Note: this is a red event, which means that during some parts of the event full nudity and sexual play are possible (this will mainly be during the play party). At no point, during this weekend you are required or pushed to be naked or sexual. You can participate in the full weekend while being dressed and without touching anyone. We do ask you to be comfortable with nudity and sexuality in the room.
This event welcomes folks from all walks of life. We are LGBTQIIA+ informed (Wilrieke and most of her team identify as such), slut-friendly, trauma-informed, and non-monogamy informed. White folks are overrepresented in our team and life experiences are coloured through that lens. We do come from different social backgrounds and have different life experiences when it comes to health, wealth, neurodiversity, gender, sexual orientation, etc.
We welcome folks with disabilities. We can adapt exercises so that they fit you. Where we can we will support you. If you have a person/animal that supports you in daily activities that you need to bring for your care, they can of course come with you without buying a ticket. Please reach out if you have special needs, and we will discuss how we can support you. In case we cannot comfort your needs, we will honestly let you know.
This event is for you if:
This event is NOT for you if:
What is a play party?
A play party is a co-created space of endless exploration based on your own desires and boundaries. Within that playground, there are endless possibilities!
Co-creation means that we start together in a circle. There are agreements (like confidentiality, respecting relationship agreements, taking care of your own wellbeing, and a few more) that we share and, if you want to stay for the rest of the event, agree to by raising your hand.
There are some introduction games that change every time, but include tuning in to today’s desires and boundaries. We may share our mildest and wildest desires as well as our fears. There will be heart-opening exercises, and reminders of how our YES, NO and MAYBE’s feel in our bodies before we smoothly transition into free play.
There’s no focus on sexuality, you don’t have to do anything. A play party simply means that, unlike in most parts of our lives, éverything is welcome – also sexuality. We will remind you that drinking a cup of tea while being a witness is as perfect an experience as doing sexy things you never did before is. We will also remind you that sometimes these play parties are happenings beyond our wildest dreams, and sometimes they trigger the freak out of us, we feel stuck and excluded, not knowing what to do. This is amazing too, as now you have an opportunity, if you want to, to reach out for support to be with what is coming up, and maybe break your patterns and release your trauma.
A play party has no expectations or requirements. It is a space to be expressed and celebrated, to explore! You are welcome with all that you bring and who you are – in this moment.
The weekend consists of exercises that you can do on your own, in two’s, or in larger groups. There will be sharings in smaller groups and in the whole group. Towards the end of the weekend there is a play party: a contained amount of time where you get to practice what you’ve learned freely with our support and guidance.
As in all of our workshops, you are encouraged to sit out of anything. Witnessing is valid participation. If you come with a partner you are welcome to stay together for the whole workshop, or play with others too.
SOME PRACTICAL INFORMATION
In the week before the event, you will receive an email with detailed information for this day including the address and what to bring. Make sure you sign up with the email address that you use. Check your spam filter if you did not receive an email seven days before the event (if you have unsubscribed from our newsletter, these emails cannot reach you!).
On this page you find elaborate information about our events, and many frequently asked questions >>> https://www.exploringdeeper.com/FAQ
This is a page that speaks more explicitly about rules of conduct during our workshops >>>
Saturday: 10.00h – 18.00h (doors open at 9.30h)
Sunday: 11.00h – 19.00h
This workshop space is called De Ruimte – we are in the room UPSTAIRS. Accessibility of this specific venue: there are steep stairs to access the building. There is no elevator. One inside, there are bathrooms on the workshop floor. the bathrooms are not specifically all-access. There are mattresses and you can lie down as much as you can. There is a separate room where bags etc can be stored, that can also be used as an outbreak room with minimalized stimuli.
There is a small fridge. There are no cooking/heating facilities. There are (shared) showers.
If you are curious about our Guidelines for Team Members, feel free to check the full document out here: https://www.exploringdeeper.com/ethics
For all events, Exploring Deeper’s Terms and Conditions apply: https://www.exploringdeeper.com/terms-and-conditions/.
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