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A Night on Open Relating and Consensual Non-Monogamy with Reid Mihalko and Wilrieke Sophia

February 18 @ 19:30 - 22:00 CET

Learn about Open Relating and Consensual Non-Monogamy from Reid Mihalko and Wilrieke Sophia!
Curious about polyamory? Maybe you’ve read all the books but want to talk to folks actually living and loving the polyam lifestyle? Seasoned and looking for like-minded people?
Whatever your reason or level of experience, join sex and relationship educators Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com and Wilrieke Sophia of Exploring Deeper for a 2,5-hour workshop full of tips and tricks and Q&A!
> Please be mindful that due to changing COVID measures the timing of this day may change, e.g. to the afternoon instead of the evening. The facilitator team may change, e.g. when it’s impossible to travel into NL (in this case, Wilrieke will facilitate). We will ask for a QR code ánd selftest. Please inform yourself about our procedures before purchasing your ticket. The changes mentioned here (timing/facilitators) will not be a reason to refund your ticket. Check our COVID protocols for more info, www.exploringdeeper.com/covid.
In this fun, informative and easy-to-understand primer on polyamory and open relationships, we’ll cover:
  • Definitions, vocabulary, and different ways to construct non-monogamous relationships
  • The elements that make polyamory workable (and those that create frustration and regrets!)
  • How to create safety – even when you are anxiously or avoidantly attached.
  • Open relationships’ most common pitfalls and how YOU can avoid them
  • How to create safety by figuring out and negotiating your boundaries and agreements
  • How to find your Perfect Poly Fit and merge different poly styles to decrease upset and increase your odds that everyone is happier and MORE fulfilled
  • 3 tips and tools that will help you survive any polyam exploration
  • The secret reframe that turns jealousy from a death knell into a beacon of hope and healthy relating!
  • Resources, books, and tools to proceed into the world of responsible non-monogamy, at whatever your preferred pace or interest level… Tools that help in monogamy, too!
Opening up relationships can be tricky, but it’s not impossible! You can learn the skills and develop the patience and perseverance to win at non-monogamy. Yes, mistakes will be made, but why make any more than you have to? Join us for a workshop devoted to everyone already charting or just considering new territories in their relationships.
Whatever your experience level, whatever your sexual orientation or gender expression… Show up with your questions and leave with newfound confidence and self-esteem for your relationships and sex life!
WHO IS REID MIHALKO?
Sex and relationship geek Reid Mihalko (he/him) of ReidAboutSex.com helps adults and college students create more self-esteem, self-confidence, and greater health and accountability in their relationships and s.x lives using an inspiring mixture of humor, personal stories, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information.
In early 2018, some very brave people came forward sharing harms that Reid had caused them. Reid stepped down from teaching and initiated a restorative justice-based accountability process to address his misconduct and make amends if and where possible. The formal, year-long process along with Reid’s apology and resources were shared publicly and can be found at TinyURL.com/reidaccountability. Going forward, Reid’s projects and appearances will include pointing people towards resources and experts on restorative and transformative justice-based accountability processes.
Reid teaches internationally, running workshops and speaking on communication skills, alternative relationship styles, and shame-free sexuality. Whether online, on stage, or at a college or university, Reid shares skills and concepts designed to help everyone be the change they want to see in the bedroom.
Reid’s workshops and college lectures have been attended by over 50,000 men and women. He has appeared in media such as Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, The Washington Post, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.
Reid is also founder of SexGeekSummerCamp.com and Sex Geek School for Gifted Sex Geeks which help sex educators learn valuable business skills that allow them to reach more people, transform move lives, and make a better living as sexperts.
WHO IS WILRIEKE SOPHIA?
Wilrieke Sophia (she/her, they/them) is a sex & intimacy educator, conscious kink facilitator, intimacy activist, TEDx speaker, writer, and founder of Exploring Deeper and Cuddle Workshops International.
She identifies as queer, sex-positive, polyamorous and kinky. Wilrieke is based near Amsterdam, The Netherlands where they openly combine being a mother of three daughters with their work.
The main focus of her work is empowerment through self-knowledge and understanding, radical self-inclusion, the embodied experiencing of boundaries and desires, and an extensive practice of consent – all based on a foundation of trauma awareness and neuroscience, embedded in experiential spaces based on intimacy practices.
Wilrieke hosts sex-positive retreats, play parties, teacher training, and festivals. In several projects with colleagues, Wilrieke creates workshops and materials on accountability, abuse and power dynamics in the intimacy and wellness communities.
ABOUT EXPLORING DEEPER:
We all need touch. Here at Exploring Deeper we believe that satisfying intimacy needs to be available for everyone. To have that intimacy, a person needs to feel safe and secure in their own body. We need to know our boundaries and desires, and we need to know how to communicate them. How does a person change their life? By doing things differently, and then repeating that new way. When it comes to intimacy, our current society does not provide us with the means, tools, and place to practice our intimacy skills.
Exploring Deeper aims to create those spaces. Laboratories for exploring intimacy – deeper. We do that by creating events, sessions, materials, and professional training. All our products and services are based on the pillars of solidarity and inclusion. This means our events are meant to be a welcoming place to you, independent of race, gender, age (though 18+), s.xual orientation, relationship style, being neurodivergent or neurotypical, being disabled or non-disabled, or looks.
We acknowledge everyone is learning and may make mistakes in addressing others, ourselves included. Making mistakes is welcomed in our workshops. Intentionally causing harm by discrimination, racism, misogyny, shaming, bullying, spreading disinformation etc is not tolerated. As a team, we are actively speaking up against these issues, and repeated misconduct will lead to removing the person causing harm from the workshop and potentially withholding access to future events.
More about us:
www.exploringdeeper.com
www.cuddleworkshops.org
Instagram: @wilriekesophia
Facebook: Exploring Deeper with Wilrieke Sophia
Youtube: www.youtube.com/exploringdeeper (Debunking Lovesongs)
Check out Wilrieke’s TEDx Talk on Navigating Intimacy.

A few words on team ethics:
Integrity and creating a safer space is super important to us, the team of Exploring Deeper. You, the participants, are not our personal dating pool. There are power dynamics that can be juicy, but also abusive.
Members of our team, regardless of their role (which may be facilitator, assistant, co-facilitator, helper or participant) will not individually date people they meet in the workshop. They will not have any form of fluid exchange with participants.
We might support you in your exercises or provide a service during the play party (we’re always keen on helping you improve your spañking skills for example!).
If we have pre-existing partners or lovers in the workshop, we will disclose that at the opening of the workshop when appropriate.
If you are curious about our Guidelines for Team Members, feel free to check the full document out here: https://exploringdeeper.com/ethics

SOME PRACTICAL INFORMATION
In the week before the event, you will receive an email with detailed information for this day. Make sure you sign up with the email address that you use. Check your spam filter if you did not receive an email seven days before the event (if you unsubscribed from our newsletter, these emails cannot reach you!).
FOOD
We will provide tea and water. Feel free to bring your own snacks and other (alcohol-free) drinks.
WHAT DO I WEAR?
Whatever feels comfy! You may want to bring a cushion or meditation pillow if you like to sit on something else than a chair.
HOW MUCH IS IT?
You find that info in the ticket shop. There is a limited amount of budget tickets, meant for people with limited financial resources. We trust you to choose the ticket that fits your situation. As our current venue does not provide mattresses and we ask you to bring soft things, we have decided to not raise our prices by 6% this year (the expected inflation rate) to compensate you for your trouble.
DO I BRING TOYS OR ROPES?
Nope, not for this one!
WHAT IF I CAN’T COME ANYMORE?
There are administration costs involved, but refunds are possible. You are free to sell your ticket to someone else. We don’t mediate in selling tickets. (See Wilrieke’s terms and conditions). Please respect the gender of the ticket, and in case we send pre/aftercare emails, forward them to the person you sold your ticket to.
WHAT IF TICKETS ARE SOLD OUT?
You can ask for a ticket in the FB-event. Exploring Deeper doesn’t work with waiting lists or mediation of ticket sales.
WHAT IF I DON’T FEEL LIKE TOUCHING SOMEONE?
Then you don’t. We will never push you to do anything, nor to do anything with anyone. You can come, decide to keep all your clothes on and not touch anyone – and that’s perfect. You can also always sit out an exercise.

COVID: Check our COVID-19 protocols here: https://www.exploringdeeper.com/covid.
We will ask for a QR code AND a self-test of max 24hr old for this event.
Ticket holders will be informed prior to the event through email. Always check your SPAM folder. If you have signed out for Wilrieke’s emails, these emails won’t reach you. Reach out to Wilrieke if you did not get any information seven days before the event.
For this workshop, Exploring Deeper’s Terms and Conditions apply.
To stay updated about workshops, events and to read Wilrieke’s blog (with hundreds of articles and videos about topics like non-monogamy, s.xuality and dealing with insecurities), check www.exploringdeeper.com and sign up for our newsletter!

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Venue

Meneer de Wit
Baarsjesweg 202
Amsterdam, 1057 HS Netherlands

Organizers

Exploring Deeper
ReidAboutSex