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A Taste of Kinky Tantra w/ Monique Darling, Peter Petersen & Wilrieke Sophia

22/05/2022 @ 13:00 - 16:00 CEST

There is this juicy ground where the fields of (neo-)tantra and kink overlap. An all-inclusive space where polarity has nothing to do with gender, but all with power, intention and consent. This fiery mix of playfulness and mindfulness may just bring you that little nudge of empowerment and surrender you have been looking for, or that inspiration and creativity you always felt was in you…

This is what Kinky Tantra is all about:

  • Learning the basic principles of Tantra, BD$M, and how both practices can overlap and strengthen each other.
  • Experiencing the yes, no, and space in between in your body, and letting that guide you.
  • Awaken your intuitive powers to deepen your play.
  • Getting to know, and integrate, the principles of Impeccable Consent (based on the Wheel of Consent, kinky ethics and a whole lot of life experience).
  • Important ingredients to create a scene.
  • Use your body as the most sensual tool for play.
  • Getting/improving skills in using different toys of impact (floggers, canes, paddles) and using them in a Tantric way.
  • Getting imprints of interactions with different people, what they awaken and bring up in you, and what you can learn from all that.
  • High-Quality Holding.
  • Taking/being taken on a deep, personal journey.

In this Taste of Kinky Tantra workshop we will play with some of these aspects in a deep, but playful way.

And get to know amazing like-minded people in the best way! We usually host a very diverse crowd that is of mixed ages, gender, experience levels, and backgrounds.




This is an event covering the afternoon given by Wilrieke Sophia, Monique Darling, and Peter Petersen, all internationally acclaimed and experienced teachers. Note: this is a pink event, we ask you to be comfortable with that.



This event welcomes folks from all walks of life. We are LGBTQIIA+ informed (Wilrieke and most of their team identify as such), $lut-friendly, trauma-informed, and non-monogamy informed. White folks are overrepresented in our team and life experiences are coloured through that lens. We do come from different social backgrounds and have different life experiences when it comes to health, wealth, neurodiversity, gender, s.xual orientation, etc.

We welcome disabled folks and have good experiences with you participating in our events and sessions. Some of our venues include stairs or other challenges, but usually, we have a very helpful team of assistants who lovingly support, e.g. by carrying you, your wheelchair up and downstairs, hold doors for you, or assist in other ways. If you have a person that supports you in daily activities that you need to bring for your care, they can of course come with you without buying a ticket. Please reach out if you have special needs, and we will discuss how we can support you. In case we cannot comfort your needs, we will honestly let you know.

You do not need any prior experience for this workshop.

This event is NOT for you if:

. you are not willing to accept another person’s ‘no’

. we actively stand for inclusion. This means that in the event no racism, discrimination, misogyny, ableism, or shaming of bodies, sexualities, gender etc are tolerated. If this is something you cannot commit to, this is not your community.

. we accept all political viewpoints and personal opinions, but we also actively stand against the spread of misinformation and disinformation. If you are looking for places to share your viewpoints on vaccine shedding, this is not your community.

. we will ask for a covid quick test or another way to minimise the risk of spreading covid at this event. If this is principally against your values, you may want to reconsider signing up.


The doors open half an hour before starting time. Make sure to be on time! Once we have started we cannot let latecomers in!

During the opening circle, Wilrieke, Monique, and Peter will welcome you all. We will start with exercises to land, get to know each other, and learn to notice what our desires and boundaries are today (the more often you do these exercises, the better you get at them!). The afternoon workshop is about meditation, movement, breath and includes different tantric/kinky exercises and potential touch, and people keep at least their undies on.

After the workshop, there is a break. In the evening there is a separate workshop on tantric massage. Check the event page for this event >>>


There are many flavours of tᗅntra. The tᗅntra we teach can be considered ‘eclectic neo-tᗅntra’: tᗅntra that is a mixture of different lineages and styles of tᗅntra, brought to you through the lens of three white, queer people of different genders and neurodiversities.

There were great masters who brought tᗅntra to the western world. We haven’t learned from these masters directly but from their students (or their student’s students). Some of these lineages: Osho, Chogyam Rinpoche, Crazy Wisdom, Tao Tantra, and Kashmiri Shaivism.

From these lineages come masters with lots of wisdom, but also lineages that are often not free from abusive practices. That’s why we weave neuroscience and a lot of consent practices into our teachings.



Monique Darling (she/her), Author of ‘Beyond Cuddle Party’ and workshop facilitator extraordinaire has led over 2000 workshops in the past 10 years. She is the founder of Everyday Tantra an organization dedicated to empowering people who are questioning the assumptions of how their life should be and to offering tools for self-expression that create trust, inner knowing and wisdom to enjoy the life they have.

Monique has taught at colleges across the US including Yale. She has been featured on TLC and The Dr’s as well as various radio shows, podcasts and magazines across the globe. She specializes in helping others reclaim their power and natural sensuality by transmuting fear and repression into courage, self-love and freedom. Her primary purpose is helping folks bring out their vulnerability, energetic embodiment and fearless relating.

Learn more about Monique by going to www.Everydaytantra.com


Peter Petersen’s (he/him) three main passions in life are movement, music, and meditation. He is a certified Sheng Zhen Qigong teacher and has been teaching qigong for the last 20 years. He has taught in health clubs, hospitals, retirement villas, and several different wellness resorts in Mexico and the United States such as Rancho La Puerta, Mayacamas Ranch, and Present Moment Retreat. Together with Monique Darling, as Everyday Tantra, Peter has travelled all over the world, teaching Tantra and his own style of Qigong-Dance fusion. Helping people to see what is intensely alive in their heart, and then helping them to export that inner passion to the outer world, is the reason that Peter loves his job and will embody his passion until drawing his final breath.


Wilrieke Sophia (they/them) is a sex & intimacy educator, conscious kink facilitator, intimacy activist, TEDx speaker, writer, and founder of Exploring Deeper and Cuddle Workshops International.

She identifies as queer, sex-positive, polyamorous and kinky. Wilrieke is based near Amsterdam, The Netherlands where they openly combine being a mother of three daughters with their work.

The main focus of her work is empowerment through self-knowledge and understanding, radical self-inclusion, the embodied experiencing of boundaries and desires, and an extensive practice of consent – all based on a foundation of trauma awareness and neuroscience, embedded in experiential spaces based on intimacy practices.

Wilrieke hosts sex-positive retreats, play parties, teacher training, and festivals. In several projects with colleagues, Wilrieke creates workshops and materials on accountability, abuse and power dynamics in the intimacy and wellness communities.


We all need touch. Here at Exploring Deeper we believe that satisfying intimacy needs to be available for everyone. To have that intimacy, a person needs to feel safe and secure in their own body. We need to know our boundaries and desires, and we need to know how to communicate them. How does a person change their life? By doing things differently, and then repeating that new way. When it comes to intimacy, our current society does not provide us with the means, tools, and places to practice our intimacy skills.

Exploring Deeper aims to create those spaces. Laboratories for exploring intimacy – deeper. We do that by creating events, sessions, materials, and professional training. All our products and services are based on the pillars of solidarity and inclusion. This means our events are meant to be a welcoming place to you, independent of race, gender, age (though 18+), s.xual orientation, relationship style, being neurodivergent or neurotypical, being disabled or non-disabled, or looks.

We acknowledge everyone is learning and may make mistakes in addressing others, ourselves included. Making mistakes is welcomed in our workshops. Intentionally causing harm by discrimination, racism, misogyny, shaming, bullying, spreading disinformation etc is not tolerated. As a team we are actively speaking up against these issues, and repeated misconduct will lead to remove the person causing harm from the workshop and potentially withhold access to future events.

More about us:



Instagram: @wilriekesophia

Facebook: Exploring Deeper with Wilrieke Sophia

A few words on team ethics:

Integrity and creating a safer space is super important to us, the team of Exploring Deeper. You, the participants, are not our personal dating pool. There are power dynamics that can be juicy, but also abusive.

Members of our team, regardless of their role (which may be facilitator, assistant, co-facilitator, helper or participant) will not individually date people they meet in the workshop. They will not have any form of fluid exchange with participants.

We might support you in your exercises or provide a service during the play party (we’re always keen on helping you improve your spañking skills for example!).

If we have pre-existing partners or lovers in the workshop, we will disclose that at the opening of the workshop when appropriate.

If you are curious about our Guidelines for Team Members, feel free to check the full document out here: https://exploringdeeper.com/ethics


In the week before the event, you will receive an email with detailed information for this day including the address and what to bring. Make sure you sign up with the email address that you use. Check your spam filter if you did not receive an email seven days before the event (if you have unsubscribed from our newsletter, these emails cannot reach you!).


We will provide tea and water. Feel free to bring snacks, and bring food if you stay for the evening.


Wear what makes you feel comfortable during the workshops. Bring some layers, as you might get hot or cold. 


You find that info in the ticket shop. There is a limited amount of budget tickets, meant for people with limited financial resources. We trust you to choose the ticket that fits your situation. 


We want to include everyone, whatever your gender or identification is. That means there’s space for everyone, without one group getting overrepresented. Therefore there are tickets for people who identify themselves as male, female and other.

(We realize that there are many gender identities outside the binary norms. For practical reasons, we have summarized them as a category ‘other’ on the ticket sales pages. We apologize to anyone who does not feel represented by this category.)

Please only buy a ticket that represents your gender – and not any other ticket. Sold out = sold out.


We use a system of colours to explain what happens in an event with regards to s.xuality:

White: clothes stay on, there is no s.xuality or nudity. (e.g. cuddle workshops.)

Pink: partial nudity is allowed but genïtals stay covered. Sensual play is possible. (e.g. energy s.x workshops and pink play parties.)

Red: full nudïty and s.xual interactions are possible (e.g. exploring kink, red play parties.)


You don’t need anything for this workshop.


There are administration costs involved, but refunds are possible. You are free to sell your ticket to someone else. We don’t mediate in selling tickets. (See Wilrieke’s terms and conditions). Please respect the gender of the ticket, and in case we send pre/aftercare emails, forward them to the person you sold your ticket to.


You can ask for a ticket in the FB-event. Usually, there are multiple play parties planned ahead.


Then you don’t. We will never push you to do anything, nor to do anything with anyone. You can come, decide to keep all your clothes on and not touch anyone – and that’s perfect. You can also always sit out an exercise.

COVID: Check our COVID-19 protocols here: https://www.exploringdeeper.com/covid.

We will likely ask for a self-test of max 24hr old for this event.

Ticket holders will be informed prior to the event through email. Always check your SPAM folder. If you have signed out for Wilrieke’s emails, these emails won’t reach you. Reach out to Wilrieke if you did not get any information seven days before the event.

For this workshop, Exploring Deeper’s Terms and Conditions apply https://www.exploringdeeper.com/terms-and-conditions/.

To stay updated about workshops, events and to read Wilrieke’s blog (with hundreds of articles and videos about topics like non-monogamy, s.xuality and dealing with insecurities), check www.exploringdeeper.com and sign up for our newsletter!



Friday 19.30 – 22.00h Latihan, Sensual Wonderland a Night of Authentic Connecting
Saturday 14.00 – 23.00h Red Play party & The In’s and Out’s of Energy Sxx
Sunday 13.00 – 16.00h A Taste of Kinky Tantra
Sunday 19.00 – 22.00h Tantra Massage Secrets For Everyone
Specially discounted all-access passes for the whole weekend:


13:00 - 16:00 CEST
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