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Our Choice of Words Matters

by Wilrieke | May 15, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships

The words we choose to talk to ourselves and others with, matter. Over the last weeks, I kept saying that I didn’t want a relationship and that when I met the Wizard I went in kicking and screaming. Until he, wisely, mentioned that I linked him to something I...

How to Increase our Capacity to Receive Pleasure

by Wilrieke | Mar 23, 2023 | Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Pleasure

What impacts our capacity to experience pleasure? I believe it’s about noticing what our senses register, noticing how that feels in the body (interoception), and letting go of any thoughts, conditionings, shame, fear, etc that may limit pleasure. And when...

eFlyer Retreats 2023

by Wilrieke | Jan 16, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Call-Out, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Debunking Lovesongs, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer, Kink & BDSM, Nervous System and Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Red Flags in Workshops, Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra

Red Flags in Workshops: Apologists

by Wilrieke | Dec 24, 2022 | Dealing with Trauma, Red Flags in Workshops, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra

What are apologists, and why do they annoy me so? Apologists may not play an active role in harmful situations, but they are part of the problem and potentially perpetuate harm or abuse. It can be hard to stop apologizing and start listening to stories of targets...

My Insecure Attachment System Gives You the Benefit of the Doubt

by Wilrieke | Oct 4, 2022 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma

The way my (disorganized) insecure attachment – the ways in which I relate to people – works is that I doubt myself a lot. Whether I’m too much, not enough, boring, demanding, avoiding, clinging, etc. Whenever I’m in a confrontation with...

The Undirected Responses of Our Body to People We Don’t Trust

by Wilrieke | Jun 8, 2022 | Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships

Do you recognize that? That when you meet people you had intense and complex relationships or experiences with, your body still responds in an emotional way? I do. Sometimes it’s someone I had a short but intense uncomfortable experience with. Sometimes an...
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