by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
It’s easy to think, once on the path of self-realization, the workshops, the books, the therapy, to believe that everything that ripples our waters ‘needs fixing’. And yes, there is a lot with fixing that makes not only our lives happier and easier,...
by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity
Therapy is amazing. We need safe spaces to discuss what is bothering us and learn new ways of looking at ourselves, others, and the world. But it’s not everything. We also need to expose ourselves to (challenging but not too challenging) experiences in a safer...
by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Sexuality
CW: sexual harm I’m going through a phase of pretty rough emotions linked to people close to me. Besides dealing with the emotions connected to the situation at hand, it also brings up memories. Memories of relationships in which agreements were broken. Of...
by Wilrieke | Feb 14, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
This week I’m spending time thinking about why my relationship with the Wizard feels increasingly secure (with moments where I do feel insecure), whereas in previous relationships the trend was often the other way. So why is that? Here are some things I am...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Kink & BDSM, Sexuality
Kink has been a special teacher in my life. It has been one of the main keys to helping me process trauma, become more self-secure, and like myself much better. How? Some answers. 1. Consciously stepping into the role of following the other (submission) is totally...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
One of the most powerful things I have learned lately is to separate the relationship from the situation. This is something I found harder in the past. Whenever the situation was uncomfortable, there was a crisis in the relationship. It was me versus them. But when...
