by Wilrieke | Dec 24, 2022 | Dealing with Trauma, Red Flags in Workshops, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra
What are apologists, and why do they annoy me so? Apologists may not play an active role in harmful situations, but they are part of the problem and potentially perpetuate harm or abuse. It can be hard to stop apologizing and start listening to stories of targets...
by Wilrieke | Oct 4, 2022 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma
The way my (disorganized) insecure attachment – the ways in which I relate to people – works is that I doubt myself a lot. Whether I’m too much, not enough, boring, demanding, avoiding, clinging, etc. Whenever I’m in a confrontation with...
by Wilrieke | Jun 8, 2022 | Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
Do you recognize that? That when you meet people you had intense and complex relationships or experiences with, your body still responds in an emotional way? I do. Sometimes it’s someone I had a short but intense uncomfortable experience with. Sometimes an...
by Wilrieke | Dec 3, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
When a relationship ends, there’s the possibility to look at it from an increased distance. This distance also makes it possible to see patterns. Recurring challenges that come back throughout different relationships. That’s where I am now, and I’m...
by Wilrieke | Nov 17, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships, Sexuality
Having boundaries is okay – really. They will support you in creating safety and having the experiences you want to have and with whom you want to have them. In this video, I explain the difference between manipulative boundaries and the ones that are informed,...
