by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships, Tantra
You cannot think your way out of trauma. I often meet people who think ‘they should be over this by now’ or try to rationalize their way through hurt. It seems to be a topic that comes to the surface in relationships, whether monogamous or non-monogamous...
by Wilrieke | Jan 6, 2023 | Red Flags in Workshops, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra
Bystanders: they are there but don’t do anything. Why is that problematic? Check the full brochure on different roles in situations of harm here.
by Wilrieke | Dec 24, 2022 | Red Flags in Workshops, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra
What are enablers and how do they operate? Are you accidentally an enabler? Enablers are people who actively support a perpetrator, e.g. by organizing for them, opening their venue to them, co-teaching with them, assisting them, etc. Enablers may also shame or blame...
by Wilrieke | Dec 24, 2022 | Dealing with Trauma, Red Flags in Workshops, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra
What are apologists, and why do they annoy me so? Apologists may not play an active role in harmful situations, but they are part of the problem and potentially perpetuate harm or abuse. It can be hard to stop apologizing and start listening to stories of targets...
by Wilrieke | Oct 4, 2022 | Kink & BDSM, Tantra
COFFEE & CANES, LAUGHTER & RAINBOWS That’s my team, before and after a weekend of Exploring Kink. Another sold-out room with such a lovely group from all over the world. Two days. Many experiences. Tears, laughter, and Belgian pralines. I keep telling...