This Elusive Now

This elusive now

There are so many moments which are not now, and just this fraction of time ‘now’. Gone as soon as you realize it’s here. And in this continuum of now’s, passing by so swiftly, in the same time so much is happening! The whole world is happening within it. It’s tangible, yet elusive. Sometimes my thoughts drift away and it feels I missed a whole bunch of now’s. Sometimes so many people are expectant, disappointed, hopeful or happy in my presence that the now we share seems endless. Sometimes I feel there aren’t enough moments of now, and sometimes I can’t wait until the moments between me and a moment in the future have passed. Maybe it’s the only thing…

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Can I have Slow Sex Please? – Four Important Insights I gained in Tantra

Can I have Slow Sex Please?

There is wine that you buy, just to buy wine. You quickly glance over the bottles and end up with a 5 liter box of cheap Merlot. Nothing wrong with that. The next time you spend even less time, heading for the same Merlot right away. You liked it last time, didn’t you? Sex can be like that Merlot, or like a slowly ripened, full bodied affair. Nothing wrong with a quickie, but there is so much more than the fast-and-easy fix for releasing tension, frustration or just that urge for a moment of sensory high. I like Slow Sex. These are some lessons I learned from practicing Tantra. I like diversity and exploration I like Merlot. But I also…

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The Ritual Cacao Ceremony

Cacao ceremony

Who doesn’t love chocolate? The combination of cacao, dance and a mind-expanding experience must be one of the most luscious things I can think of. I also love how plants and other natural substances can give us insights that we usually can’t reach. I call them imprints: once you felt them, you will always be able to reconnect to a certain feeling and apply it in new situations. I never tried ritual doses of theobromine, the active compound of chocolate. Raw cacao in ritual doses is celebrated for its capacities to open hearts and supports transformation through self-love. Raw cacao is also a powerful antioxidant, enhances the immune system, lowers the risk of heart disease, lowers high cholesterol and blood…

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Your life = your experience (and not the general truth)

It's your experience

When we advice, teach or even preach to others, it’s easy to be convinced of our perspective on things. But don’t forget that everything you share comes from your experience, from how you’ve lived your life. And this may or may not resonate with someone else. Maybe you can have a little part of you be the observer, when someone asks you for advice. An observer that reminds you that all you say is not the general truth, but simply your experience of what does and doesn’t work for you in your life. But, of course, that’s my experience 😉 [youtube=https://youtu.be/YmpLdrBUID8]

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(Poem#14) Unconditional self love

Unconditional self love

Can I love myself, Independent of what you do? Can I embrace myself, No matter what anyone says about me? Can I open my heart again, When all I want is to run away? Can I stay humble, Without becoming insecure? Can I share about what touches me, Without playing the victim card? Can I smile at myself, through my tears? Can I see the lightness of being, Beyond the weight of the world? Can I love myself, Borderless, boundless, unconditional?

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The cosmic joke

We choose the decor that shapes our life

This life, it’s just one big joke. What we see, it’s only the decor. It’s not real. Nothing really is. Nothing. Not even the concept we call ‘I’ or ‘mine’. Even that’s a joke. One that we all believe. Until we see it through. Until we see there is a way out. That way out is by letting go. Letting go of everything: you name, your job, your status, your body – and eventually the whole concept that you believe you are. Only when you can let go of all of that, only then you will be free. What does it mean to be free? It means you have a choice. In each single moment, you can choose to open…

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What do you need love?

What do you need love?

Do you dare ask yourself what it is that you need love, independent of what others tell you? Can you stand your ground dear, independent of the consequences? Life will give you mirrors that reflect how you see yourself. The situations you find yourself in, the people you meet; they are a mere reflection of how you feel about what it is that you deserve. The ultimate challenges are your closest relationships. How are your parents treating you? How is your lover treating you? Can you see the patterns? Can you see how they love you, respect you, see you? Can you see how they frustrate you, keep you small, prevent you from doing what you want, enforce their opinion…

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On the desire for control

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Life is such a vast experience, that it’s hard to grasp. On the one hand we try to keep ourselves small. We tell each other about all the impossibilities in our days, how we can’t manage or aren’t allowed to. Making our lives small is a coping mechanism for those who can’t see the vastness and the abundance. Another coping mechanism is control. Whether it is about our own decisions or those of others, control gives us a sense of direction, of having influence on our world. But it’s false security. Nothing can ever be controlled. There is no way we can predict the course of a day, let alone of all days of all those people around us. Now…

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On following your heart’s desire

On following your heart’s desire

There’s nothing you have to do right now. There’s not a single reason for pushing yourself beyond your heart’s desires. Look around you. Look now and see what’ve already created? There will be things you believe can change. But do you see the beauty? The success? The light? We tend to be so hard, so tough. But what for? When we die, we die empty-handed. We die alone. This life, this beautiful life! This is all we have. Celebrate! Celebrate by following your heart’s desire, your inner light. Simply ask yourself: “What do I need right now? What brings me joy, peace, love?” Listen to your desires. Don’t’t worry if they are unconventional or weird, for these labels are just…

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On being who you are

On being who you are

When we are talking about who you are, we’re not talking about the being you are. You are vast, much larger than what you perceive as ‘you’. The ‘you’ as an identity is an illusion. In the web of interconnectedness you are a knot, a part of something huge – which you are also as a whole. To understand this concept, you need to look and to feel beyond the ‘you’. The body may be experienced as something with an inside and an outside. ‘Part of’ and ‘Not part of’. But your body is not a container of flesh, thoughts and experiences. Your body is the vehicle in which vastness moves. Look into another persons’ eyes and feel how you…

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