by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality
A question that I can ponder over for hours. Is it saying ‘we are in a relationship’? Is it the person we expect to fulfill all our needs? I once read somewhere that we define our relationships by who we are having sex with. It’s quite a monogamous...
by Wilrieke | Jan 6, 2023 | Red Flags in Workshops, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra
Bystanders: they are there but don’t do anything. Why is that problematic? Check the full brochure on different roles in situations of harm here.
by Wilrieke | Dec 24, 2022 | Red Flags in Workshops, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra
What are enablers and how do they operate? Are you accidentally an enabler? Enablers are people who actively support a perpetrator, e.g. by organizing for them, opening their venue to them, co-teaching with them, assisting them, etc. Enablers may also shame or blame...
by Wilrieke | Dec 24, 2022 | Dealing with Trauma, Red Flags in Workshops, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra
What are apologists, and why do they annoy me so? Apologists may not play an active role in harmful situations, but they are part of the problem and potentially perpetuate harm or abuse. It can be hard to stop apologizing and start listening to stories of targets...
by Wilrieke | Jun 8, 2022 | Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra
The world of (neo) tantra can be amazing. There are teachers that have high standards, bring amazing workshops and whom I wholeheartedly trust. But there are also dynamics that I don’t like. The cultural appropriation, copying a guru culture badly, and of...
