by Wilrieke | Apr 10, 2022 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Sexuality
Everyone who is sexually active can spread things. From HPV to gonorrhoea and hepatitis and way more. Many STIs are mainly annoying to have, but some you’ll never get rid off, and others can kill you. I try to take regular tests, once or twice per year,...
by Wilrieke | Nov 30, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships, Sexuality
When I was young I considered myself very much a heterosexual. Being bullied and having a complex youth, I tried not to deviate from the norms as much as I could to make sure I was as invisible as possible. My best friends were my horses, and besides a bit of kissing...
by Wilrieke | Nov 17, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships, Sexuality
Having boundaries is okay – really. They will support you in creating safety and having the experiences you want to have and with whom you want to have them. In this video, I explain the difference between manipulative boundaries and the ones that are informed,...
by Wilrieke | Nov 4, 2021 | Gender & being queer, Relationships, Sexuality
We still live in a society in which heterosexuality is seen as the norm. Any deviation from it may lead to shaming – or even violence. In some countries, non-heterosexual choices may lead to the death penalty. I think heterosexuality is an imposed choice. Why?...
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Sexuality, Spirituality
I’m done. I’m done with my friends apologizing for their bellies. Done with loved ones finding clothes that ‘flatter’ their tummies. I am done with women’s magazines telling us how to get a flat belly. How to lose the love handles and get...
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships, Sexuality
These are two different ways: 1. Your boundaries can get crossed when you find yourself in a situation when someone (or you yourself) is forcing an experience upon you that you don’t want to have. E.g. your parents force you to eat something you don’t want...
