by Wilrieke | Feb 14, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
This week I’m spending time thinking about why my relationship with the Wizard feels increasingly secure (with moments where I do feel insecure), whereas in previous relationships the trend was often the other way. So why is that? Here are some things I am...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
One of the most powerful things I have learned lately is to separate the relationship from the situation. This is something I found harder in the past. Whenever the situation was uncomfortable, there was a crisis in the relationship. It was me versus them. But when...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
Part of me thinks there is an endpoint. That somehow, at some point in time, I will ‘get it’. I will know my boundaries impeccably. I know exactly what I want and to communicate that at the right moment. I will be free of trauma and fears. The older I get,...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
Do we need a resolution to be free?
by Wilrieke | Dec 7, 2023 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality
Forty. It’s half my life ago when I was twenty. Double this and I am eighty. It feels like an eternity and a blink of an eye. I don’t mind getting older. I celebrate the grey hairs, although slowly the physical downfall sets in. There is so much I love...
by Wilrieke | Nov 15, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
You may be well aware of the fight, flight, and freeze responses. But how well do you know fawning? Fawning is the survival strategy where you set aside your wants, needs, and boundaries to prioritize someone else’s, to maintain the connection to that person. It...
