by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
Part of me thinks there is an endpoint. That somehow, at some point in time, I will ‘get it’. I will know my boundaries impeccably. I know exactly what I want and to communicate that at the right moment. I will be free of trauma and fears. The older I get,...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
Do we need a resolution to be free?
by Wilrieke | Dec 7, 2023 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality
Forty. It’s half my life ago when I was twenty. Double this and I am eighty. It feels like an eternity and a blink of an eye. I don’t mind getting older. I celebrate the grey hairs, although slowly the physical downfall sets in. There is so much I love...
by Wilrieke | Nov 15, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
You may be well aware of the fight, flight, and freeze responses. But how well do you know fawning? Fawning is the survival strategy where you set aside your wants, needs, and boundaries to prioritize someone else’s, to maintain the connection to that person. It...
by Wilrieke | Nov 15, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
SOMEONE ASKED ME THIS WEEKEND: “HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU FEEL SAFE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP? How do you feel that in your body? How do you know?” That was a brilliant question, one that took me time to find words for. The thing is, it is hard to explain why I feel...
by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
Someone once told me that in the beginning of a relationship, you see the similarities between you. Then, after some months and getting to know each other better (and I would say, attachment patterns kicking in) you start to notice differences. It’s why many...
