by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships, Tantra
You cannot think your way out of trauma. I often meet people who think ‘they should be over this by now’ or try to rationalize their way through hurt. It seems to be a topic that comes to the surface in relationships, whether monogamous or non-monogamous...
by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Call-Out, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
Safety is not about preventing anything challenging or potentially hurtful from happening (that’s impossible anyway). It’s about what happens afterward. About creating closeness, intimacy, and trust again. It’s about listening and being heard....
by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Call-Out, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Pleasure, Relationships, Sexuality
I think there is a thing we get twisted when it comes to receiving. I meet many people who say they find it hard to receive, harder than giving. Giving comes easier, they say, as they know what to do and can be of service. But receiving is difficult, as it is for...
by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Attachment Dynamics, Call-Out, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
Space between people feels different as a recovering codependent. I’ve always identified as anxiously attached and insecure in relationships. And although I’ve been on a path of recovery for years, I can still fall into those patterns. However, I am changing,...
by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Emotions & Insecurity, Pleasure, Relationships, Sexuality
For many years, I believed being “too much” was my problem. Whether it was a desire for more intimacy, s/x, extra time together, or additional cuddles, I thought the issue was solely with me. I considered the other person’s pace, intensity, and...
by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Call-Out, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
Conflict, to me, is when emotions escalate to a point where productive communication breaks down. It’s the red zone on the spectrum of emotional states, where stress responses like fight, flight, or freeze take over. I’d rather not let things get to that point. That...
