by Wilrieke | Feb 28, 2022 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships
When I talk with other parents about introducing new partners to their kids, most of them are quite careful. In order not to upset their children’s world too much when a new partner enters a parents’ life, most of them let a relationship grow over time to...
by Wilrieke | Jan 18, 2022 | Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
So far in life, I always publicly related to people of another gender. Usually, with persons identifying and looking like men, sometimes with someone queer, but always in a relationship that seemed heterosexual. Until Lione. Besides identifying as queer, Lione also...
by Wilrieke | Dec 3, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
When a relationship ends, there’s the possibility to look at it from an increased distance. This distance also makes it possible to see patterns. Recurring challenges that come back throughout different relationships. That’s where I am now, and I’m...
by Wilrieke | Nov 30, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships, Sexuality
When I was young I considered myself very much a heterosexual. Being bullied and having a complex youth, I tried not to deviate from the norms as much as I could to make sure I was as invisible as possible. My best friends were my horses, and besides a bit of kissing...
by Wilrieke | Nov 17, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships, Sexuality
Having boundaries is okay – really. They will support you in creating safety and having the experiences you want to have and with whom you want to have them. In this video, I explain the difference between manipulative boundaries and the ones that are informed,...
by Wilrieke | Nov 4, 2021 | Gender & being queer, Relationships, Sexuality
We still live in a society in which heterosexuality is seen as the norm. Any deviation from it may lead to shaming – or even violence. In some countries, non-heterosexual choices may lead to the death penalty. I think heterosexuality is an imposed choice. Why?...
