by Wilrieke | Apr 14, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Debunking Lovesongs, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairytales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but neediness, codependence and toxic relationships. Let’s debunk some of them! Today: Don’t You Want Me by The Human...
by Wilrieke | Feb 26, 2021 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
Human beings have a choice: we can live with one partner, or have multiple. This choice may change over time, depending on e.g. life circumstances or the people we meet. Do you know your motivation for being/desiring to be monogamous or not right now? And are their...
by Wilrieke | Feb 4, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
Oxytocin is a powerful hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. Oxytocin has a role in social bonding, reproduction, and childbirth (1). It is one of the hormones that support healthy attachment between adults, both in friendships and romantic...
by Wilrieke | Dec 27, 2020 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
Have you done some research on attachment dynamics? If you haven’t and desire to relate with anyone, I strongly recommend you to get familiar with this topic. I know for myself that I am pretty insecurely attached, with a preoccupancy towards anxious attachment...
by Wilrieke | Dec 27, 2020 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships, Spirituality
I’m the all-or-nothing type of person, with a strong tendency to ‘all’. There’s always something to do, and things can always be done better and faster. Over the years that’s a good recipe for either burnout, chronic overwhelm, a fried...
by Wilrieke | Dec 27, 2020 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
I’m not a person who automatically (or easily) feels safe in relationships. The closer I let people comes, the more ‘danger’ my nervous system perceives – or imagines. It’s called insecure attachment (in my case: both anxious and avoidant...