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Similarities and Differences

by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

Someone once told me that in the beginning of a relationship, you see the similarities between you. Then, after some months and getting to know each other better (and I would say, attachment patterns kicking in) you start to notice differences. It’s why many...

What’s the difference between relationships and friendships?

by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality

A question that I can ponder over for hours. Is it saying ‘we are in a relationship’? Is it the person we expect to fulfill all our needs? I once read somewhere that we define our relationships by who we are having sex with. It’s quite a monogamous...

Changing the Pace of Relationships

by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

I’m the type who is always in a rush. So much to do, so much to accomplish! But also that ever-repeating story that there are goals to reach, and they need to be reached fast! Preferably (thank you Calvinistic upbringing!) with suffering along the way –...

My Anxious/Avoidant Dynamics – Pt1

by Wilrieke | Jul 22, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

Relationships are such an interesting place for research. With the Wizard, I am diving deep into the details of how an anxious/avoidant dynamic plays out for us. Simplified: where the anxious-leaning partner needs proximity, the avoidant-leaning partner needs space....

Dealing with an insecure, activated, nervous system

by Wilrieke | Jun 15, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Relationships

If you are insecurely attached, in this case, anxious or disorganized (aka the worst of both worlds), time separated from your partner(s) can be hard. Especially if there is trauma or harm involved too. My partner is gone for two weeks. Here’s a bit on how...

The Flip Side of Anxious Communication (spoiler: it’s a pitfall)

by Wilrieke | May 28, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Relationships

A pitfall in healing anxious attachment patterns. Feeling safer and more secure in my own body and life is a big topic for me. As the pain around it is connected to other people, healing also takes place in the interpersonal space. That makes it exciting, but also...
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