by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships, Sexuality
Do you feel you are taken seriously? I have always had the feeling I needed to prove myself. As a teenager coming from a small village and going to high school in a posh area of the bigger city. As a forestry student (‘Hey, treehugger!’) And nowadays no...
by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
I’m thinking about relating a lot lately. How I grew up with the idea that success was being with one person for a long time, preferably doing things in the ‘right’ order, and showing up together in ways that are expected. Some relations beyond that...
by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
Growth isn’t a lineair process. There are times that feel like accelerated speed. A rollercoaster with turn after turn and no end in sight. And then calmer waters.Sometimes it seems nothing happens in that stillness, but sometimes that’s where most changes...
by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
It’s easy to think, once on the path of self-realization, the workshops, the books, the therapy, to believe that everything that ripples our waters ‘needs fixing’. And yes, there is a lot with fixing that makes not only our lives happier and easier,...
by Wilrieke | Feb 14, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
This week I’m spending time thinking about why my relationship with the Wizard feels increasingly secure (with moments where I do feel insecure), whereas in previous relationships the trend was often the other way. So why is that? Here are some things I am...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
One of the most powerful things I have learned lately is to separate the relationship from the situation. This is something I found harder in the past. Whenever the situation was uncomfortable, there was a crisis in the relationship. It was me versus them. But when...
