by Wilrieke | Aug 27, 2019 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting
To me, balance isn’t a steady state. Balance rather is the ‘average’ of extremes. Being introvert and extrovert. Being shy and outgoing. Bringing the kids to school, and traveling the world giving kinky workshops. Just to name a few.....
by Wilrieke | Jan 8, 2019 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Parenting, Relationships
My youngest daughter, aged 7, hugged me yesterday and yelled in an amused, surprised way: “Mom, there’s hair under your arm!” And I told her about female bodies, how they grow, develop, change. That it’s absolutely normal that hair grows at...
by Wilrieke | May 14, 2018 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting
Those days where I feel unhappy, stuck and trapped, I notice I’ve been putting myself in a box again. It’s a thing. A paradoxical thing. Humans like to put their world into boxes. Other humans, their calendar, their work, their relationship, their sexuality, other...
by Wilrieke | Apr 9, 2018 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Parenting
I’m not the mum who’s waiting at school every day With tea and biscuits ready And patiently plays with dolls. I’m not the mum who stopped her career Stopped her own ambitions And started putting everyone else first. I’m not the...
by Wilrieke | Aug 30, 2017 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality
Once we thought we would stay together for life. And in a way, we will, since we have three daughters. But not in a romantic relationship. About twelve months ago we broke up. It felt like facing my deepest fears. It felt like dying. And maybe I did in a way, as the...
by Wilrieke | Oct 19, 2016 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships, Sexuality
Today it is exactly one month ago that my partner and I decided to break up. We were in a temporary break for two months, after a relationship of almost nine years, including three kids. As the relationship wasn’t serving either of us anymore, we decided to break up....