by Wilrieke | Jul 26, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships, Sexuality
There is this idea about romantic relationships that they either exist or not. In Dutch we say it’s “on” or it is “off”. There may be a “blinker-phase” where the on and off alternate at a pace faster than gossip can catch up...
by Wilrieke | Oct 11, 2020 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Parenting, Spirituality
My recent spiritual practice is simple. It’s simple but not easy. It takes commitment, trust, and many deep breaths. What it is? Just one sentence: “And so it is.” It means deep acceptance of life as it comes. To see daily practicalities relative to...
by Wilrieke | Jun 23, 2020 | Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Sexuality, Spirituality
This is an ever-evolving collection of resources for white folk who desire to educate themselves about racism, white supremacy, colonialism, cultural appropriation etc. The first lesson I received and would like to share is this: Listen. Listen to those voices who...
by Wilrieke | Dec 4, 2019 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Parenting, Relationships, Tantra
Eight years ago on this night, I wasn’t sleeping. My body was feeling the contractions of my third child coming. The Little Pirate was on her way. Her birth was special. It was calm, peaceful, fast. Just like her sisters, she came out of my womb on a stool in...
by Wilrieke | Aug 27, 2019 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting
To me, balance isn’t a steady state. Balance rather is the ‘average’ of extremes. Being introvert and extrovert. Being shy and outgoing. Bringing the kids to school, and traveling the world giving kinky workshops. Just to name a few.....
by Wilrieke | Jan 8, 2019 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Parenting, Relationships
My youngest daughter, aged 7, hugged me yesterday and yelled in an amused, surprised way: “Mom, there’s hair under your arm!” And I told her about female bodies, how they grow, develop, change. That it’s absolutely normal that hair grows at...
