by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Gender & being queer, Parenting, Spirituality
Pride month is starting today, and my town of Utrecht kicked it off with Canal Pride. I’m queer. My kids (12, 14, 16) may be queer. They may not be. But they are supportive. Curious. They try to use the right pronouns for all our diverse friends. They...
by Wilrieke | May 9, 2022 | Parenting
This one is for all the mothers who feel insecure. The mothers who don’t know how to balance their need for quiet with the sound of children. The mothers who mourn their loss of freedom and the mothers who don’t know how to do it. The mothers who love...
by Wilrieke | Feb 28, 2022 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships
When I talk with other parents about introducing new partners to their kids, most of them are quite careful. In order not to upset their children’s world too much when a new partner enters a parents’ life, most of them let a relationship grow over time to...
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Nervous System and Trauma, Parenting
SELF REGULATION LIKE A PRO She’s a pro, my Little Pirate. On day three of our holiday with one of my best friends, the Archeologist, and his three kids, she’s wearing her oversized pyjamas, my vest, and her favourite stuffed bunny is within reaching...
by Wilrieke | Jul 26, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships, Sexuality
There is this idea about romantic relationships that they either exist or not. In Dutch we say it’s “on” or it is “off”. There may be a “blinker-phase” where the on and off alternate at a pace faster than gossip can catch up...
by Wilrieke | Oct 11, 2020 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Parenting, Spirituality
My recent spiritual practice is simple. It’s simple but not easy. It takes commitment, trust, and many deep breaths. What it is? Just one sentence: “And so it is.” It means deep acceptance of life as it comes. To see daily practicalities relative to...
