Meeting New People from a Different Mindset – with Zoe Johansen
My dear friend Zoe Johansen and I both felt a massive shift when we started approaching people from a different mindset.
Category: Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating
Thoughts about Marriage
What do you think: is marriage an outdated institution, or something still worth considering?
Moving through Emotional Rough Patches
Whether it’s the planets, karma, ancestral healing or simply life as it is. This week is moving a lot in me. Sending all of you who are in some sort of a rough spot so much love. I love you. You are lovable. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
B-SMART: A Tool for Navigating Edgy Spaces
Navigating edgy spaces can be, well, edgy. Most of us grew learning very little about clear communication. Especially around intimacy. It seems to me often we’re almost secretly trying to approach someone. Because we’re afraid of rejection? Because we have no idea how to ask for what we want? There are many components to why communication around intimacy is not that easy. For people coming to my intimate spaces I’ve created an abbreviation: B-SMART. It covers all the basic information I found out I want to know before moving into any intimate interaction with another person. ⇝ We actually practice these conversations in my play parties, and though people fear their awkwardness, they often turn out to be the most…
About Attracting Unavailable Partners
Attracting unavailable partners… It’s a pattern! I have written about it before: I’m so tired of attracting unavailable people. And also, what is emotional availability anyway? But: if there’s a pattern, there’s something to learn. What’s in this for me?
How Does Attraction Work?
We all know the commercial form of attraction where we stand frozen, blown away by the magnificence of the other. Or love at first sight. But are that all the flavors of attraction? And what does that attraction that comes with so much firework actually mean?
Experiences in Non-Monogamy: Finding myself as a Secure Center
Open relating can be an escape from exploring deeper within (I wrote about it on my blog, just do a search for ‘polyamory’ on my website) – connecting with many can be an escape from facing fears. But connecting with multiple people can also be a deep dive into creating a more secure attachment system. A sharing of my current personal explorations.
To the Men I Love
Dear Beloved, Thank you for opening up to me For witnessing me in all that I am For your courage to open your heart and soul for me. Our love may come in different shapes as friends or lovers – or something in between and it may change every day. You’re not my partner As I am my own main ally I need to learn to hold myself When I’m celebrating and when I’m afraid. Yes, I am desiring a King Someone to stand next to me and to sit on the throne that stands next to mine. I dust it off every now and then, but I don’t rush to fill it as it…
Fuck Falling in Love
What actually happens when we feel attracted to someone?
It’s Okay to Ask for Confirmation
I believe it’s okay to ask confirmation from people when you feel insecure. Here are two reasons why.
