by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Pleasure, Sexuality
How is your relationship with pleasure? (Incl a little micro exercise for you to do with me)
by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
I’m thinking about relating a lot lately. How I grew up with the idea that success was being with one person for a long time, preferably doing things in the ‘right’ order, and showing up together in ways that are expected. Some relations beyond that...
by Wilrieke | Feb 14, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
This week I’m spending time thinking about why my relationship with the Wizard feels increasingly secure (with moments where I do feel insecure), whereas in previous relationships the trend was often the other way. So why is that? Here are some things I am...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
One of the most powerful things I have learned lately is to separate the relationship from the situation. This is something I found harder in the past. Whenever the situation was uncomfortable, there was a crisis in the relationship. It was me versus them. But when...
by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
Someone once told me that in the beginning of a relationship, you see the similarities between you. Then, after some months and getting to know each other better (and I would say, attachment patterns kicking in) you start to notice differences. It’s why many...
by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
I’m the type who is always in a rush. So much to do, so much to accomplish! But also that ever-repeating story that there are goals to reach, and they need to be reached fast! Preferably (thank you Calvinistic upbringing!) with suffering along the way –...
