by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Call-Out, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
Safety is not about preventing anything challenging or potentially hurtful from happening (that’s impossible anyway). It’s about what happens afterward. About creating closeness, intimacy, and trust again. It’s about listening and being heard....
by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Attachment Dynamics, Call-Out, Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
Embracing ‘being in the now’ and ‘honoring where we are on our path’ are practices most of us have encountered around personal growth and wealth. But how does that work when we apply that to relationships? I’m realizing I’m still...
by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Pleasure, Sexuality
How is your relationship with pleasure? (Incl a little micro exercise for you to do with me)
by Wilrieke | Aug 29, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
I’m thinking about relating a lot lately. How I grew up with the idea that success was being with one person for a long time, preferably doing things in the ‘right’ order, and showing up together in ways that are expected. Some relations beyond that...
by Wilrieke | Feb 14, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
This week I’m spending time thinking about why my relationship with the Wizard feels increasingly secure (with moments where I do feel insecure), whereas in previous relationships the trend was often the other way. So why is that? Here are some things I am...
by Wilrieke | Jan 17, 2024 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
One of the most powerful things I have learned lately is to separate the relationship from the situation. This is something I found harder in the past. Whenever the situation was uncomfortable, there was a crisis in the relationship. It was me versus them. But when...
