by Wilrieke | Oct 4, 2022 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma
The way my (disorganized) insecure attachment – the ways in which I relate to people – works is that I doubt myself a lot. Whether I’m too much, not enough, boring, demanding, avoiding, clinging, etc. Whenever I’m in a confrontation with...
by Wilrieke | Oct 4, 2022 | Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma
Notes from your #intimacyactivist I can understand you without tolerating your actions. My compassion doesn’t mean I have no boundaries. Over the last weeks, there have been many examples in my personal life and surroundings where these sentences felt like a...
by Wilrieke | Oct 4, 2022 | Nervous System and Trauma
Notes from your #intimacyactivist My last weeks have been marked by relationships defined by manipulation. Blaming someone too young to understand electronics for not asking for the right machine is gaslighting. Facilitators offering sex in exchange for trauma therapy...
by Wilrieke | Jun 10, 2022 | Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma
Short answer: because it can be dangerous and expose your participants to potential harm. A longer answer: over the 10+ years of being a facilitator I have seen many people being inspired by my work, all the way up to copying workshop titles, complete frameworks for...
by Wilrieke | Jun 8, 2022 | Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
Do you recognize that? That when you meet people you had intense and complex relationships or experiences with, your body still responds in an emotional way? I do. Sometimes it’s someone I had a short but intense uncomfortable experience with. Sometimes an...
by Wilrieke | May 9, 2022 | Nervous System and Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
It seems to me that the solution for every relationship challenge is really simple: to ask for the need that is underlying the emotional response, whether that’s safety, a hug, being heared or something else. That doesn’t mean relationship challenges are...
