by Wilrieke | Jan 18, 2022 | Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
So far in life, I always publicly related to people of another gender. Usually, with persons identifying and looking like men, sometimes with someone queer, but always in a relationship that seemed heterosexual. Until Lione. Besides identifying as queer, Lione also...
by Wilrieke | Nov 30, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships, Sexuality
When I was young I considered myself very much a heterosexual. Being bullied and having a complex youth, I tried not to deviate from the norms as much as I could to make sure I was as invisible as possible. My best friends were my horses, and besides a bit of kissing...
by Wilrieke | Nov 4, 2021 | Gender & being queer, Relationships, Sexuality
We still live in a society in which heterosexuality is seen as the norm. Any deviation from it may lead to shaming – or even violence. In some countries, non-heterosexual choices may lead to the death penalty. I think heterosexuality is an imposed choice. Why?...
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer
SOME BENEFITS OF BEING QUEERThere’s a lot that can be said about the challenges when identifying as queer. But there are also quite some amazing things that I realized that have changed for me since publicly identifying as queer. Not that I ever wasn’t...
by Wilrieke | Jul 26, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships, Sexuality
There is this idea about romantic relationships that they either exist or not. In Dutch we say it’s “on” or it is “off”. There may be a “blinker-phase” where the on and off alternate at a pace faster than gossip can catch up...
by Wilrieke | Jul 26, 2021 | Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer, Sexuality
Gender is not a binary thing. It never has been either. Instead of two checkboxes that we are one of, depending on what seemed to be present between our legs at birth, gender is a three-dimensional galaxy of options. And not just physically. We know the numbers of...
