by Wilrieke | Mar 21, 2022 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer
They tell you to love yourself, then they tell you how unhappy they were when they were 30 kilos heavier than they are now and still drank booze. They tell you to embrace your flaws, but then list all the yoga workouts to do that will give you a muscular yet slender...
by Wilrieke | Nov 17, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships, Sexuality
Having boundaries is okay – really. They will support you in creating safety and having the experiences you want to have and with whom you want to have them. In this video, I explain the difference between manipulative boundaries and the ones that are informed,...
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Sexuality, Spirituality
I’m done. I’m done with my friends apologizing for their bellies. Done with loved ones finding clothes that ‘flatter’ their tummies. I am done with women’s magazines telling us how to get a flat belly. How to lose the love handles and get...
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
Content and sad Overwhelmed and lonely Bored with a long to-do list Grumpy and relaxed Grateful while feeling FOMO We don’t have to choose. We can feel all of those things, and more, all at the same time. And it goes deeper. We have different parts inside us....
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer
SOME BENEFITS OF BEING QUEERThere’s a lot that can be said about the challenges when identifying as queer. But there are also quite some amazing things that I realized that have changed for me since publicly identifying as queer. Not that I ever wasn’t...
by Wilrieke | Jul 26, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships, Sexuality
There is this idea about romantic relationships that they either exist or not. In Dutch we say it’s “on” or it is “off”. There may be a “blinker-phase” where the on and off alternate at a pace faster than gossip can catch up...