by Wilrieke | Jul 26, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Parenting, Relationships, Sexuality
There is this idea about romantic relationships that they either exist or not. In Dutch we say it’s “on” or it is “off”. There may be a “blinker-phase” where the on and off alternate at a pace faster than gossip can catch up...
by Wilrieke | May 28, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Spirituality
Sometimes it feels to me that all the offers of self-help books, transformational workshops, and life-changing life coaches want to promise us exactly that: life is an experience of an ever-increasing ride of growth and joy, while all excess trauma, negative beliefs,...
by Wilrieke | May 26, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Gender & being queer
I have a natural thing against gyms (no offence) and ever since I became a mother about 13 years ago I like to do the occasional yoga routine or workout at home. By now, I’m beyond my saturation point of young, skinny, white girls facilitating those. I...
by Wilrieke | May 4, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity
We have such a strange relationship with pride. At least in my culture. We shouldn’t be proud, as it’s seen as self-righteous and arrogance. But why not be proud? Why not acknowledge who we are and what we have to contribute? I know I need meaning and...
by Wilrieke | May 4, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Gender & being queer, Kink & BDSM, Sexuality, Tantra
This is what I love most about letting go of the binary gender thinking that I grew up with. Think about it: the first thing people do when a baby is born is checking the sex. And from that moment on, a lot is decided. From the colour of clothes to chances in life,...
by Wilrieke | May 4, 2021 | Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity
Out of all the things happening in the world right now, there is one thing I’m sure of, and that is I’m changing.I finally cut my hair, I’m using different pronouns wherever it feels safe enough and fun. I dare to speak up when I don’t agree. I...
