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Rethinking Safety Beyond Prevention

by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Call-Out, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

Safety is not about preventing anything challenging or potentially hurtful from happening (that’s impossible anyway). It’s about what happens afterward. About creating closeness, intimacy, and trust again. It’s about listening and being heard....

Receiving vs. the Discomfort of Anticipated Return

by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Call-Out, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Pleasure, Relationships, Sexuality

I think there is a thing we get twisted when it comes to receiving. I meet many people who say they find it hard to receive, harder than giving. Giving comes easier, they say, as they know what to do and can be of service. But receiving is difficult, as it is for...

Notes from a Recovering Codependent

by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Attachment Dynamics, Call-Out, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships

Space between people feels different as a recovering codependent. I’ve always identified as anxiously attached and insecure in relationships. And although I’ve been on a path of recovery for years, I can still fall into those patterns. However, I am changing,...

I’m conflict-avoidant, and I’m fine with that

by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Call-Out, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships

Conflict, to me, is when emotions escalate to a point where productive communication breaks down. It’s the red zone on the spectrum of emotional states, where stress responses like fight, flight, or freeze take over. I’d rather not let things get to that point. That...

Relationships: how I am still pushing myself to be elsewhere

by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Attachment Dynamics, Call-Out, Courage & Fear, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

Embracing ‘being in the now’ and ‘honoring where we are on our path’ are practices most of us have encountered around personal growth and wealth. But how does that work when we apply that to relationships? I’m realizing I’m still...

My Anxious/Avoidant Dynamics – Pt3: rest vs. excitement

by Wilrieke | Jan 24, 2025 | Attachment Dynamics, Call-Out, Relationships

I used to think that all those surges of adrenaline and drama in my relationships meant something real was happening—that I was growing, or that the relationship itself was inherently meaningful. In reality, I now recognize that my attachment style was playing a big...
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