by Wilrieke | Oct 4, 2022 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma
The way my (disorganized) insecure attachment – the ways in which I relate to people – works is that I doubt myself a lot. Whether I’m too much, not enough, boring, demanding, avoiding, clinging, etc. Whenever I’m in a confrontation with...
by Wilrieke | Dec 3, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
When a relationship ends, there’s the possibility to look at it from an increased distance. This distance also makes it possible to see patterns. Recurring challenges that come back throughout different relationships. That’s where I am now, and I’m...
by Wilrieke | Nov 30, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Gender & being queer, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships, Sexuality
When I was young I considered myself very much a heterosexual. Being bullied and having a complex youth, I tried not to deviate from the norms as much as I could to make sure I was as invisible as possible. My best friends were my horses, and besides a bit of kissing...
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
Content and sad Overwhelmed and lonely Bored with a long to-do list Grumpy and relaxed Grateful while feeling FOMO We don’t have to choose. We can feel all of those things, and more, all at the same time. And it goes deeper. We have different parts inside us....
by Wilrieke | Oct 14, 2021 | Attachment Dynamics, Dealing with Trauma, Nervous System and Trauma, Relationships
Resetting the nervous system. That’s what swimming in cold water feels for me like now. I never liked it. Until the last months. I notice how living in these intense times of constantly being online, a pandemic, climate change, and all the things that come with...
