“Do You Still Feel Insecure and Bad about Yourself?”

“Do You Still Feel Insecure and Bad about Yourself?”

"When is the last time you were insecure or thought bad about yourself?" People ask me this question often. And it seems they expect an answer defining a moment way back in the past. But it's very much in the present. Every day there are moments in which I think I'm a...

(Poem #20)  The Books You Devoured

(Poem #20) The Books You Devoured

Leaving it all behind worries, sorrows, and doubts Letting your soul fly beyond the vast skies Allowing the unfolding of mysteries and stories That you never read in the books you devoured The movies you saw Or what they told you life would be like Holding the pencil...

Bufo – Dying to Grow

Bufo – Dying to Grow

“I know you have worked with medicine before, but have you ever done Bufo, the toad?” This question came by often, with the addition that even when you have worked with Ayahuasca and Kambo, Bufo is something else. The stories sounded so intense, that I never even...

(Video) Do I still believe in Non-Monogamy?

(Video) Do I still believe in Non-Monogamy?

After more than 7 years in all kinds of relationship constellations, devoting big chunks of my time to relationship dynamics, attachment patterns, and coaching numerous people: how do I feel about non-monogamy?

(Video) Conscious Relationship Design: Being Single

(Video) Conscious Relationship Design: Being Single

About why it happens to many of us that as soon as we step into a relationship we feel way less autonomous, powerful and amazing as when we're single. About the use (or not) of labels and the implications for our nervous system.

‘Mum, there’s hair under your arm!’

‘Mum, there’s hair under your arm!’

My youngest daughter, aged 7, hugged me yesterday and yelled in an amused, surprised way: "Mom, there's hair under your arm!" And I told her about female bodies, how they grow, develop, change. That it's absolutely normal that hair grows at certain places. That we can...

I am Love

I am Love

Whatever you do Whoever you are There will be implications. As you embrace more of your own juiciness, power, explicitness, and beauty - the stronger the responses will be. The cheering ánd the judging. The projections will increase exponentially. When you look...

Waking Up Next To A Gorgeous Woman

Waking Up Next To A Gorgeous Woman

This morning I woke up next to a gorgeous woman. Her back was turned to me, and she was naked. As she had pushed the blankets off of herself, I could look at the curves of her hips, as the rays of sun that sneaked in between the dark blue curtains caressed her,...

Love is a Weird, Projection-Based Thing

Love is a Weird, Projection-Based Thing

It is often said about falling in love: the butterflies are a hormone induced crazy fling where we project all kinds of things onto another human being. Things that we either recognize in ourselves and desire more of, or things that seem the opposite of things in...

We’re In This Together

We’re In This Together

You know, dear one, You might feel alone out there, on your path of life. Knowing that what the people around you do is not the kind of passionate living that you ambition. You probably feel the strong pull of going beyond imaginary boundaries of right, wrong, and...

Body Hair and Curves: What a Real Woman Looks Like

Body Hair and Curves: What a Real Woman Looks Like

There are so many social conditioning around sexuality, our bodies, our looks, how we present ourselves both to others as well as to ourselves. While shedding layers of all this, it's so interesting how we can re-discover ourselves every day again. Take the body hair...

(Video) About Kinky Tantra #1

(Video) About Kinky Tantra #1

How Kinky Tantra can enrich your (Tantric) life and boost your chakras. Especially your manipura. Also: boundaries, desires, body image, polarity, dealing with emotions. This is the event I'm mentioning: The Kinky Tantra Intensive, November 16-18, 2018 NL Do you want...

(Video) Intimacy is More Than Sex – Interview with Robert Kandell

(Video) Intimacy is More Than Sex – Interview with Robert Kandell

Intimacy is more than Sex with Wilrieke Sophia. We discuss how we often focus on the physical aspect of intimacy and don't give the same credence to the other aspects. --------- In celebration of his upcoming book, Author Rob Kandell is having 15-minute FB LIVEs to...

The Longing for Big Love

The Longing for Big Love

It’s okay to long for Big Love, dear. To feel that trembling longing in your belly that lets you know, from deep inside, that this is something real this Big Love is something that exists and it’s there, for you, too. To feel that overwhelming sadness in your chest...

The Pain of Losing Presence

The Pain of Losing Presence

We live in a dual world. When we learn what it's like to be received in full presence, we inherently also learn what it's like when that full presence is gone. When this other, who is so present with you, suddenly is gone. Doesn't show up. Breaks an agreement. Can't...

Being a Sexual Person #2

Being a Sexual Person #2

Standing in the middle of an over-crowded train on my way home, another workshop facilitated in Amsterdam behind me. The people in the train discuss fried snacks with huge pupils. So much passion about burgers. Some are wearing sunglasses, even though it’s near...

You Can Have Boundaries 100% of the Time

You Can Have Boundaries 100% of the Time

You always have a right to set boundaries. Always.   I notice how easy I still step into a pattern of believing I have no right to set boundaries because I believe I'm in no position to have boundaries.   For example when I'm someone's lover, besides a primary...

(Video) How to Break Patterns, Once and for All.

(Video) How to Break Patterns, Once and for All.

Relationships are an amazing laboratory to discover patterns and work along with them or break them. How does that work? What supports the process? P.s. If you desire support finding your patterns or breaking them - let me know.

(Video) Conscious Relationship Design: Conscious Completion

(Video) Conscious Relationship Design: Conscious Completion

Exactly a year ago we met. It has been a deep and intense ride since, with so much love to share. Now we decide to let go. Of any labels, agreements or expectations. We have brought our deepest patterns to the surface, and now we both need a different stroke to dive...

When a Saboteur Enters our Relationships

When a Saboteur Enters our Relationships

I let him go. I had never been loved this much by anyone in my life, and yet I let him go. I had no choice. My nervous system was having a way harder time than I desired, and the longer we were together, the less relaxed I felt about our relationship. Was it me? Was...

The Deeper We Love, the Deeper Love Will Touch Us

The Deeper We Love, the Deeper Love Will Touch Us

The deeper we love, the deeper love will touch us. It is as incredible as it sounds, though not always easy. As love tears down everything in its way to loving more, all our deepest stories, pain, fear and insecurity is revealed in the wake of unleashing bliss. And...

(Video) Conscious Relationship Design: Feeling Safe

(Video) Conscious Relationship Design: Feeling Safe

Being real about relating: sharing openly about my relationship with David, the patterns, the pitfalls, the victories. We all want to feel safe. But do you actually know when you feel safe? And when there are many voices/characters in your head: who's right? What's...

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