Poly – Mono – Poly… Wilrieke, make up your mind!

Poly – Mono – Poly… Wilrieke, make up your mind!

Some people are getting more confused about my love life than I do myself, it seems. I get that. There was a Viking, I was talking about monogamy, and now suddenly I profile myself as non-monogamous again. What is that about? Partly that is about you reading and...

Resources for White Folks who want to Educate Themselves on Racism

Resources for White Folks who want to Educate Themselves on Racism

This is an ever-evolving collection of resources for white folk who desire to educate themselves about racism, white supremacy, colonialism, cultural appropriation etc. The first lesson I received and would like to share is this: Listen. Listen to those voices who...

I have many Lovers – but I don’t want a Partner

I have many Lovers – but I don’t want a Partner

I am not with a partnerBecause I choose to. I have no desire for tumbling into patternsOf expectationsFor compromisingWhat I never wanted to compromise. The ‘happily ever after’when walking hand in handis holding on from fear. It doesn’t meanI don’t believe in...

Am I Queer Enough?

Am I Queer Enough?

It's a question I have been playing with for years. When I'm in a very binary/straight environment I feel queer, and when I'm in a non-binary/queer welcoming space, I'm worried about being perceived as an unwelcomed guest. I may generally look like your average...

When you are missing Touch and Connection

When you are missing Touch and Connection

Touch helps releasing stress. But we're in lockdown now, and many of us have a high amount of stress coming in, and little to no touch. What to do? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSpU3uxqqyI&t=5s

(Poem #21) The Altar of Life

(Poem #21) The Altar of Life

So. Here we are. Sitting down in front of the altar of life. The sacred herbs of devotion burning, leaving traces of smoke circling around our faces. The scent intense. This is what it all come down to. Witnessing the unknown unfolding, taking in all the sensations....

Nettles and Kundalini (eat & play!)

Nettles and Kundalini (eat & play!)

I love plants. Plants can be amazing, also for intimacy! The stinging nettle is wonderful to play with - ánd healthy. You can eat it and make tea with it - but it's also looooots of fun in kinky play (solo or partnered). So social distancing or not, go get some...

Everything Changes

Everything Changes

Everything changes. Somehow, as I'm getting older and have experienced more changes in my life, this reality is touching me deeper. Where I'm walking is a patch of land that was a field after it was something wilder. Then it got the purpose 'building land', and...

#thankyouplantmedicine

#thankyouplantmedicine

#thankyouplantmedicine I have always felt a strong calling in my soul to connect with plants. From wanting to become a forester at age four, to studying forest and nature conservation and traveling the world to be in amazing forests. I still do that. I have always had...

How to Stay Sane in Relationships – with Jamie Catto

How to Stay Sane in Relationships – with Jamie Catto

I love talking with my dear friend Jamie Catto. Sometimes we record our sessions to be able to share them with you. Does the name Jamie Catto ring a bell? Jamie is an amazing musician (co-founding the legendary band Faithless and nowadays still bringing amazing...

It’s Time to Debunk some Myths about Personal Growth

It’s Time to Debunk some Myths about Personal Growth

There are some myths going around in the personal growth and conscious workshop scene. Not just amongst participants, but amongst teachers too. Let me debunk a few. Note: this is my personal experience. Not double referenced scientific research. ❧ Magic happens...

I like kink and BDSM as Tool for Growth (and Why 50Shades Sucks)

I like kink and BDSM as Tool for Growth (and Why 50Shades Sucks)

Over the years there have been many tools that helped me grow from a shy girl into the woman I am today. Kink and BDSM are amongst my favorites. They receive a lot of judgment. But to me, they have been lifesavers. They have helped me step outside the social paradigms...

Changing Attachment Dynamics Can Feel So Wrong

Changing Attachment Dynamics Can Feel So Wrong

It's interesting. How when changing the patterns around me, the results become different. Of course. Different input (by conscious choice) creates a different output. But the brain! My mind says: "It's different, which is not the usual pattern, which means whatever is...

Sitting with Overwhelmed Children

Sitting with Overwhelmed Children

Eight years ago on this night, I wasn't sleeping. My body was feeling the contractions of my third child coming. The Little Pirate was on her way. Her birth was special. It was calm, peaceful, fast. Just like her sisters, she came out of my womb on a stool in front of...

The Viking & I: Emotions when Entering a New Relationship

The Viking & I: Emotions when Entering a New Relationship

You may have seen the Viking on my media. Yep, he's there. Entering my life the way Vikings do: effectively, present, and thorough. It's the thing about attracting what you desire: once you actually realize what it is you really need, which may differ from what you...

When Anxious meets Secure – Attachment Dynamics

When Anxious meets Secure – Attachment Dynamics

We all have attachment patterns. Some of us are securely attached, and have no challenges letting intimacy come close. Others are insecurely attached, and love can be the thing we most crave and fear at the same time. We have our preferred strategies, that are either...

Do I really want what I think I want?

Do I really want what I think I want?

Lately, I’m enjoying entertaining myself contemplating if I really want what I think I want. I think I know about all the things that I want, and I enjoy time meditating as if what I want is there. You know, the first step in the Law of Attraction, right before taking...

Nothing Happens in Winter. Or?

Nothing Happens in Winter. Or?

Human processes are like the seasons in a temperate climate. There are the bigger waves, aligned with the seasons where the general tendency in summer is to go on adventures, and in winter many of us like to snuggle under a blanket with a book. Then there are the...

Embracing Anger

Embracing Anger

Anger, for me, is an emotion I easily bypass from a place of reason. But tapping into anger can be an amazing tool to release, as well as to feel our boundaries. There is a caveat though. When we, consciously or unconsciously, direct our unprocessed anger at someone,...

Intimacy is So Much More than Sex – with Jamie Catto

Intimacy is So Much More than Sex – with Jamie Catto

Me and Jamie Catto talking about what intimacy is, how sex can be more than rubbing things together.  Sex is not just an act. But culture teaches us to approach sex in a 'yang' manner: directed actions with a clear goal in mind. But when we learn to listen to our...

Dealing with Overwhelm

Dealing with Overwhelm

This morning I woke up feeling completely overwhelmed. Not because of bad things - because there is a lot of high-intensity awesomeness going on in my life. Plus a vast to-do list. We need self-care. Even though people might still run the paradigm that self-care is...

The Power of Bondage

The Power of Bondage

It's no secret that I'm a fan of kink. The play with polarities, leading and surrendering can be an amazing path of personal growth. Ropes are a tool that we can use to emphasize the leading or surrendering pole. Being tied, there's literally nowhere to go as your...

The Fine Line between Things to Face & Boundaries

The Fine Line between Things to Face & Boundaries

One of the most common pitfalls in the field of personal growth that I see is the belief that we have to face everything that triggers a response in us. After doing my research, I concluded this is absolute nonsense. Not everything we face is a challenge to overcome....

Sexual Nourishment – with Reid Mihalko

Sexual Nourishment – with Reid Mihalko

Join Reid Mihalko and me as we talk about s.xual nourishment, where we share some of our personal backgrounds around nourishment, as well as an overview of different ways of finding s.xual nourishment (hint: it's not just about touching yourself) right at the end....

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