Debunking Lovesongs #15: Gaslighting

Debunking Lovesongs #15: Gaslighting

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairytales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but neediness, codependence and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: Don't You Want Me by The Human League...

Why I don’t believe in a shift from 3D to 5D

Spiritual people from all over the world claim we are in a frequency shift that will change the world forever. Quite a few have even built commercial products around this concept. I remember reading that (some people in) each generation believes they are the ones the...

My Voice is not a Weapon

My Voice is not a Weapon

When I raise my voiceSome say I’m too loudSome say they’re disappointed That the things I say areViolentIntolerant I am very tolerantJust not towards intolerance.I am very patientJust not with ignorance. My voice is one that has been silenced for too longAnd I won’t...

Health is a Shared Endeavour, not an Individual Accomplishment

Health is a Shared Endeavour, not an Individual Accomplishment

Health is not just a combination of what you eat, what you think, and how you move. Your health is a communal endeavor. Your food: It's produced somewhere. By people. Not just the crops or animals you're eating, but also decennia (or millennia) of domestication and...

Non-Monogamy for Life or as a Temporary solution?

Non-Monogamy for Life or as a Temporary solution?

Human beings have a choice: we can live with one partner, or have multiple. This choice may change over time, depending on e.g. life circumstances or the people we meet. Do you know your motivation for being/desiring to be monogamous or not right now? And are their...

Should we Face All our Trauma?

Should we Face All our Trauma?

It's a hype in personal growth realms: face your fears and dive in even further. But is that helpful and healing? Content: - what trauma is - you are not broken when you have traumas - the importance of the comfort zone - you design whether, when, and how you want to...

In-Group Love and Out-Group Attacks: Hooray for Oxytocin!

In-Group Love and Out-Group Attacks: Hooray for Oxytocin!

Oxytocin is a powerful hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. Oxytocin has a role in social bonding, reproduction, and childbirth (1). It is one of the hormones that support healthy attachment between adults, both in friendships and romantic...

The Responsibility it takes to Relate with Someone Secure

The Responsibility it takes to Relate with Someone Secure

Have you done some research on attachment dynamics? If you haven't and desire to relate with anyone, I strongly recommend you to get familiar with this topic. I know for myself that I am pretty insecurely attached, with a preoccupancy towards anxious attachment (aka...

I’m an All-or-Nothing Type of Person. Are You too?

I’m an All-or-Nothing Type of Person. Are You too?

I'm the all-or-nothing type of person, with a strong tendency to 'all'. There's always something to do, and things can always be done better and faster. Over the years that's a good recipe for either burnout, chronic overwhelm, a fried nervous system, a complaining...

There’s a Shift in my World – and it’s not from 3D to 5D

There’s a Shift in my World – and it’s not from 3D to 5D

There's a shift happening in my world. And maybe in yours too. I'm not talking about the shift from 3D to 5D, not anything that has to do with frequencies. It's also not something new. This has happened many times before, and likely will happen many times again. It's...

Debunking Lovesongs #14: Christmas edition! Victimhood

Debunking Lovesongs #14: Christmas edition! Victimhood

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairytales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but neediness, codependence and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: Last Christmas by Wham! Victimhood is a...

Debunking Lovesongs #13: Neediness

Debunking Lovesongs #13: Neediness

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairytales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but neediness, codependence and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: Blinding Lights by The Weeknd Neediness:...

When Love equals Danger: Healing an Anxious Attachment Pattern

When Love equals Danger: Healing an Anxious Attachment Pattern

Some of us feel comfortable letting others close - that's called a secure attachment pattern. But many of us don't. When you have an anxious attachment pattern, it is scary to let partners come close. Basically, there are two ways of avoiding deep intimacy: through a...

Debunking Lovesongs #12: Jealousy

Debunking Lovesongs #12: Jealousy

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairytales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but codependence and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: 'Every Breath You Take' by The Police. This song is...

Debunking Lovesongs #11: Invulnerability

Debunking Lovesongs #11: Invulnerability

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairy tales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but codependency and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: 'The Bad Touch' by The Bloodhound Gang. Took me a...

A Story about Un-Friendzoning

A Story about Un-Friendzoning

Some connections are best as friends. Friendship can be a nourishing, complete, intimate, and healthy way of connecting. But sometimes, putting someone in the position of friend, i.e. 'friendzoning' someone, can come from a place of insecurity. Let me share with you a...

I am a Shapeshifter

I am a Shapeshifter

I am a shapeshifter. What does that mean, you may wonder? I don't become a wolf at midnight, and I can't fly. But I have many different aspects, all rolled into one. I'm shy and bold. Introvert and extravert. Feminine and masculine. Insecure and full of courage....

My Recent Spiritual Practice is Simple

My Recent Spiritual Practice is Simple

My recent spiritual practice is simple. It's simple but not easy. It takes commitment, trust, and many deep breaths. What it is? Just one sentence: "And so it is." It means deep acceptance of life as it comes. To see daily practicalities relative to the bigger...

No More #fitbody Culture

No More #fitbody Culture

I don't want to be part of the culture anymore, where we need to look a certain way. #fitbody #fitgirl #fitboy ... Hashtags with hundreds of thousands of hits. Mothers who bring their children to school in running clothes so they can optimally align having the perfect...

Debunking Lovesongs #10: Insecurity

Debunking Lovesongs #10: Insecurity

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairy tales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but codependency and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: 'As Long as You Love Me' by The Backstreet Boys. This...

Debunking Lovesongs #9: Toxic Relationships

Debunking Lovesongs #9: Toxic Relationships

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairy tales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but codependency and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: 'Nothing Compares to You', written by Prince and...

Debunking Lovesongs #8: Abandonment Fear

Debunking Lovesongs #8: Abandonment Fear

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairy tales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but codependency and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: 'Breakfast at Tiffany's' by Deep Blue Something. The...

Debunking Lovesongs #7: White Knight Syndrome

Debunking Lovesongs #7: White Knight Syndrome

We have all grown up amidst pop sings and fairytales that are all about love. But the things is, many of them are not about healthy love, but codependence and toxic relationships. Let's debunk some of them! Today: 'Fix You' by Coldplay, a song Chris Martin wrote for...

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