B-SMART for Safer Intimacy

This tool is created to help you have safer intimate interactions. What information might be good to have on the table before diving in?

I created the abbreviation B-SMART as it speaks to all the elements of information that I wish to have before playing sensually or sexually with someone. When do I have this talk? At least before any undies come of!

Many people express that having ‘the talk’ feels awkward and interrupting. But when I let folks practice in my workshops these are the usual responses: ‘This is so much fun!’, ‘Gosh, I feel so inspired.’ ‘This wasn’t awkward, this was hella sexy!’ And the one I hear most: ‘I feel so much safer now.’ And sexy times are much more fun when everyone involved feels safe!

Here’s the tool in an image:

Would you like the B-SMART tool as an easy printable you can bring along and share with your friends? We’ve got you! Here’s the official B-SMART zine! You can print this and fold it into a small booklet.


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About me

Hi! My name is Wilrieke Sophia.

I’m an Intimacy Coach & Educator, Facilitator, International Speaker & Entrepreneur. I can help you take charge of your love life by attracting what you really desire in life:  love, sex, friendship – from mild to wild, from monogamy to polyamory, and everything in between.

I will take you from feeling lonely, unworthy, and disconnected to feeling more connected with yourself, others, and completely turned on by life.

I also train facilitators to run a trauma-informed, inclusive, and consensual intimacy-based business like mine. Keep on reading to find out more about all the exciting workshops, products, and online courses I offer!

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