by Wilrieke | May 28, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Relationships
A pitfall in healing anxious attachment patterns. Feeling safer and more secure in my own body and life is a big topic for me. As the pain around it is connected to other people, healing also takes place in the interpersonal space. That makes it exciting, but also...
by Wilrieke | May 15, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
The words we choose to talk to ourselves and others with, matter. Over the last weeks, I kept saying that I didn’t want a relationship and that when I met the Wizard I went in kicking and screaming. Until he, wisely, mentioned that I linked him to something I...
by Wilrieke | May 11, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Emotions & Insecurity, Relationships
Boundaries are always valid to have. It is an ideal idea that boundaries come from a place of calm, centeredness, and knowing our deepest truths. But boundaries coming from fear can be just as valid. Especially when we are recovering from a past of harm and trauma, we...
by Wilrieke | May 1, 2023 | Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships
As I am moving through the processes of letting people go and letting people in, I realize again: emotions don’t come in a linear fashion. Emotions come in waves, and those waves follow patterns. Now I see it, the pattern isn’t very hard to recognize: when...
by Wilrieke | Mar 23, 2023 | Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Pleasure
What impacts our capacity to experience pleasure? I believe it’s about noticing what our senses register, noticing how that feels in the body (interoception), and letting go of any thoughts, conditionings, shame, fear, etc that may limit pleasure. And when...
