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Similarities and Differences

by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

Someone once told me that in the beginning of a relationship, you see the similarities between you. Then, after some months and getting to know each other better (and I would say, attachment patterns kicking in) you start to notice differences. It’s why many...

What’s the difference between relationships and friendships?

by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality

A question that I can ponder over for hours. Is it saying ‘we are in a relationship’? Is it the person we expect to fulfill all our needs? I once read somewhere that we define our relationships by who we are having sex with. It’s quite a monogamous...

Changing the Pace of Relationships

by Wilrieke | Sep 27, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

I’m the type who is always in a rush. So much to do, so much to accomplish! But also that ever-repeating story that there are goals to reach, and they need to be reached fast! Preferably (thank you Calvinistic upbringing!) with suffering along the way –...

My Anxious/Avoidant Dynamics – Pt1

by Wilrieke | Jul 22, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Emotions & Insecurity, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating, Relationships

Relationships are such an interesting place for research. With the Wizard, I am diving deep into the details of how an anxious/avoidant dynamic plays out for us. Simplified: where the anxious-leaning partner needs proximity, the avoidant-leaning partner needs space....

Letting go of trying to be nice

by Wilrieke | Jul 14, 2023 | Attachment Dynamics, Courage & Fear, Dealing with Trauma, Emotions & Insecurity, Nervous System and Trauma, Non Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relating

What the fear of abandonment means to me, is an internalized conviction that people won’t like me, unless I try really hard to be nice. It shows in behavior I often barely notice myself. Pausing, to notice what the other wants, and then ‘suddenly’...
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