Manifesto for Sisterhood

Women are mean. Is that not what they say? Unfortunately it is true. Girls, do you remember that from pre-school on, you always tried to be popular. To bully the weak one just to make sure you are not the one bullied? To spread rumors about a pretty girl, trying to lower her social status to your benefit? Or maybe you were the bullied person and you have seen the other side of the malice women can practice. We have created a society where women forgot how to connect with each other. We forgot how much we can uplift and support each other. In this fear-based society, we base our actions on the projections that frighten us most. What would…

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The largest conspiracy ever

The question I’m asked often is: “Why do you want to face your fears, and challenge yourself to live your life so differently? Why not just be like everybody else?” To me, my friends, ‘being like everybody else’ is taking part in the largest conspiracy ever. What is a conspiracy? To understand this, we need to understand what a conspiracy is. According to the Oxford Dictionary, a conspiracy is: a secret plan by a group to do something unlawful or harmful: a conspiracy to destroy the government [mass noun] the action of plotting or conspiring: they were cleared of conspiracy to pervert the course of justice ‘a conspiracy of silence’: an agreement to say nothing about an issue that should be…

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The difference between egoism and self-love

Putting myself first. Isn’t that a very selfish thing to do? Many of us have been taught since we were very young that we should take care of others before taking care of ourselves. We believe that it is a positive feature to be able to put others first. We’re proud of forgetting our own needs and making sure others are doing fine. The need of putting yourself first I truly believe that you can never make the people around you happy, when you are not happy yourself. How can you take care of others when you don’t take care of yourself? When a store only gives away things, it will be empty very quickly. By asking money in return,…

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Review: Mystic Life – Spiritual Polyamory

Spiritual Polyamory by Mystic Life is a self-called “powerful, groundbreaking work, certain to challenge and stimulate members of both the “poly-curious” and polyamorous communities. Mystic Life takes you on a journey into honesty, awareness and self-exploration. You will be encouraged to explore your true beliefs about love, jealousy, sex and letting go of control.” Love of all The book starts with clearing up the differences between ‘ego’ and your true self. We are already whole. The ego is a “collection of beliefs arising from fear and the illusion of separation”. What Mystic Life means, is that we judge others’ behavior (which stems from ego) for it makes us feel better to place our own ego above another person. I believe…

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Abundant love

I am in an open relationship. I don’t limit myself by sharing my love with only one person. I prefer and choose to live with an open heart. And I’m open about it. In our society it’s not very accepted nor appreciated to have an open relationship. There’s a lot of judgment, intolerance and most of all – fear. We all want to be loved. We do crazy things to be loved. We buy expensive clothes, go to the gym and follow a strict diet to look attractive, accept jobs with status… we do it to show the world we are worth loving. We want abundance. Not only we want love, we also want a lot of it! And why…

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Ambiguous answering. Or: why it’s so difficult to understand women

Lately I realized that there are at least three ways in which I answer or react to the same question. Very often I’m not aware that I’m so ambiguous. It´s like there are multiple versions of me that answer in their own way. It happens often when my partner and I discuss stuff that includes emotions, like new steps into our open relationship. He might ask me if it´s okay with me for him to go out with a girl. I tell him I´m perfectly fine, I don´t like it and that it´s up to him to decide what he wants to do, all in a couple of minutes within the same conversation. Next thing is that he tries to…

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Allow yourself to receive

When there’s a friend in need for help, you are there to help out. But can you ask for help when you long for someone to hold your hand? Is it easier to give a present or to receive one? Would you rather clean a friend’s house or ask a friend to clean your house? Can you give sensual pleasure but also receive it with the same ease? In the ideal situation the amount given = the amount received.  When the amount received exceeds the amount given, you withdraw more energy from other people than giving them, leaving others empty and not fulfilled. More often the balance turns to the other side: people tend to give much more than they…

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Being a sexual person

Being a sexual person

A journey towards complete freedom Sometimes I meet people who I consider to be sexual persons. They don’t need to have the looks of a catalog model. It’s about their appearance, the vibe they broadcast. First of all, these people are totally comfortable in the body they are in. I’ve seen them in many shapes, from pretty young girls to chubby old men. Both tall and short, thick and thin. They all had in common that they radiated. Without exception, these people are beautiful. Just plain beautiful. They all live a life in which they follow their heart. Whether they have a job in a library, grocery store, having their own companies or are famous. They do the things they…

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Open relationships: How much do you tell?

No matter if you keep your open relationship clothes-on or clothes-off, it’s very important to discuss how much you want you and your partner to tell each other. Discuss before practicing! It is very important to have the conversation about how much details you want to share with each other before you start connecting with new people. When you involve yourself into stuff without knowing that your partner really likes to know about new steps you are about to make on beforehand, you have no second chances. If you only tell your partner afterwards, or worse, when your partner finds out afterwards, your partner might never trust you again. Is that worth it? All dirty details What if your partner…

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In love, 1+1 is much more than 2

Mathematically 1+1 equals 2. If you have a certain amount of something and you wish to divide that amount with a number of people, everybody gets a part. When more people join the party, the portion of the pie each person receives reduces. Young parents love their newborn kids more than they could ever imagine. When a second baby is about to arrive, it is a common fear that they could never love the second child as much as this first child. After the second child is born they realise that their worry was needless. They love their second, third and all following children just as much as they love the first one. Love ≠mathematics Love is not like mathematics at…

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