Me time for moms*

*Read dad for each mom if you’re a guy. All of this applies for you too of course 😉 In your life you have many roles to play. If you are having kids, you are probably a mother (guys, read father here 😉 ), a partner, (self-)employed, a friend, a housekeeper and maybe you have other roles like player of some kind of sport, painter, hiker, etcetera. It’s not easy to distribute time equally  for each role. Often, the roles that give you pleasure and time to relax are the roles neglected. It’s just the way it goes Wake up early, stressing to get the kids ready for school, give your love a hug and a kiss (don’t try to…

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Do I have to change myself?

There are things I want differently in my life. I want myself to grow and develop. I wish for changes. But changing is something I’d rather avoid. Can I change myself and my life without changing? Guess what will happen when you do what you always did. You get what you always got. If you really want change, you have to change. You have to be the change. But changing is scary! What’s the worst thing that can happen? Your life will change? But that’s what you want! 😉 We all have this imaginary space around us, called our comfort zone. As long as we stay inside that comfort zone, we feel safe. We know what’s in there, we know…

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How to make friends when you move

How do you make new friends when you move to a new place? I want to illustrate this post with lessons from my horses. Horses are sensitive, social animals. They mainly communicate with body language and facial expressions. Observing horses among each other, or their behavior towards humans is very interesting and can teach you a lot about yourself. I own two ponies and a big black horse. The big horse, Jade, is living in a pasture near my house, with two other horses. My ponies were still living at my parents’ place, far away from where we live. Two days ago I moved my ponies to the same place where Jade lives. The ponies are a mother, Bo (ten years old)…

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Love isn’t a competition, it’s additive

Think this over for a while: Is love something which comes at certain volumes that need to be shared among the people around you? Or is there enough for everybody? Many times I have heard parents telling me about the love they feel for their kids. When expecting their second child, young parents often worry whether they would have enough love for their expected newborn. They love their first kid so much, how could they love another child just as much? When the second child is born, they realize there is nothing to worry about. There is enough love for all kids. Love isn’t a pie of which all people around you get a share. Love is an unlimited source…

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Can I blame the rain?

Sunday morning. The kids are still sleeping. Boyfriend is reading a book. No appointments yet. The perfect moment to go outside for a long ride with my horse. But… it’s raining. I could stay at home, get a little grumpy. Get nervous because my plans for the day get mixed up. Direct my bad mood at my boyfriend and daughters, making them feel bad too. It’s not my fault I feel bad. It’s because of the rain. I blame the rain for how I feel. But is that fair? Is the rain in any way responsible for me choosing to go for a ride with my horse or not? There is only one person responsible for the choices I make.…

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