Suffering is a choice

Reasons for procrastination and tools to stop doing it

What I love to do when my head is filled with emotions and thoughts is going for a long walk. Surrounded by nature, my body relaxes and my mind calms down. To me, rhythmically putting one foot in front of the other, breathing fresh air and listening to the birds is like a meditation in motion. Today I walked in the dunes for hours. For days my mind felt stuck with fear and emotions. I had been taking care of ill family members for over a week, visiting hospitals, trying to arrange everything, while facing some major fear issues that overwhelmed me in the process. No map, just a feeling of where I wanted to go, I strolled through the…

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Fearless living

To live an abundant, loving life, means choosing a life without fear. It must be something we all wish to do. But how can you choose never to fear again? Is that even possible? Fearing fear It’s not fear itself that frightens us most. It’s fearing fear. The vision of going to a dentist is often much worse than the pain we experience once we are in that chair. The vision of facing a group of people is often much worse than the feeling we get when that crowd applauds for us after our speech. We often base our fears on projections. We think other people will think badly of us. The idea new people won’t like us frightens us.…

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Be brave and live!

It’s not the things we do or experience that confuse us, but our opinions about them. When you are confronted with things that seem weird, tough, difficult or strange… try to look at them with an open mind and an open heart. You might be surprised how life is on the other side. To live without fear or judgement. It’s easy to judge. It’s easy to try to make yourself feel better by being negative about others. But it won’t make you truly happy. It won’t change the situation. It won’t erase the fear. It won’t change your feelings. Each time you encounter a similar situation, similar negative feelings will rise. You will depend on your begative attitude towards others…

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Allow yourself to receive

When there’s a friend in need for help, you are there to help out. But can you ask for help when you long for someone to hold your hand? Is it easier to give a present or to receive one? Would you rather clean a friend’s house or ask a friend to clean your house? Can you give sensual pleasure but also receive it with the same ease? In the ideal situation the amount given = the amount received.  When the amount received exceeds the amount given, you withdraw more energy from other people than giving them, leaving others empty and not fulfilled. More often the balance turns to the other side: people tend to give much more than they…

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Being a sexual person

Being a sexual person

A journey towards complete freedom Sometimes I meet people who I consider to be sexual persons. They don’t need to have the looks of a catalog model. It’s about their appearance, the vibe they broadcast. First of all, these people are totally comfortable in the body they are in. I’ve seen them in many shapes, from pretty young girls to chubby old men. Both tall and short, thick and thin. They all had in common that they radiated. Without exception, these people are beautiful. Just plain beautiful. They all live a life in which they follow their heart. Whether they have a job in a library, grocery store, having their own companies or are famous. They do the things they…

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Healing myself – part 1 and 2

It feels like I’m going through all my chakras to really clear them up from all deep pain and hurt that is still there. Last week on Wednesday Seb and I had our first fight. It was about a misinterpretation of how much we’d tell each other about our openness in relationships. We had an argument but talked things over during the next days and eventually came out stronger than before. But our fight also opened a well of fear. I cried and cried. I felt so unsafe and sad. It was like a major fear from the past wasd triggered. All of a sudden I felt like the little girl in the situations I always had to deal with in…

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How to feel happy quickly – a recipe

Let me teach you a way to feel happy. I’m not pretending to make you BE happy in 10 minutes. That may take some more time. But even in times of sadness or processing, you need some time to laugh. A recipe for how to feel happy quickly. Follow all steps or just pick the one that attracts you most. 1. Make a delicious, healthy smoothie This one offers a lot of comfort. Find a blender or food processor. If you don’t have anything else nearby, grab a fork. Release some frustration with it by mashing the ingredients 🙂 Take: Bananas, 1 per person Soy milk (or any other plant based milk) (Raw) cocoa powder Fresh ginger (soothes nausea); optional Some…

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Feel like crying

Some days things just don’t work out. Emotions swirl around. They don’t have a clear reason or source. They’re just there. Life seems tough. It makes me feel like crying. What’s wrong? Nothing. Everything. I don’t know! I’m so happy with the life I live. I’m so grateful for the abundance it brings me. Still tears run down my face. I want to be free of worries. Feel relaxed in everything I do. See everything and everybody as a source of blissful joy. See each day as an infinite source of possibilities. Enjoy every split second of it, smiling broadly. That’s not how I feel today. Today I feel there’s not enough. There’s not enough time for me to be…

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Emotions during processes of change

How do you master new habits? How do you grow as a person? There are four steps to take to change yourself: 1. Unconsciously incompetent At first you don’t realize there’s something to change. You lack the knowledge or the experience or the references to be aware a certain habit is not helping you as a person. And since nothing bothers you, there’s no trigger for change. Let’s use the example of smoking. You may be a smoker and be totally unaware of the health risks smoking implies. You have enough money to buy cigarettes and matches, you like to smoke and you love the social interaction with other smokers that smoking brings. Why would you stop smoking if there…

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Can I blame the rain?

Sunday morning. The kids are still sleeping. Boyfriend is reading a book. No appointments yet. The perfect moment to go outside for a long ride with my horse. But… it’s raining. I could stay at home, get a little grumpy. Get nervous because my plans for the day get mixed up. Direct my bad mood at my boyfriend and daughters, making them feel bad too. It’s not my fault I feel bad. It’s because of the rain. I blame the rain for how I feel. But is that fair? Is the rain in any way responsible for me choosing to go for a ride with my horse or not? There is only one person responsible for the choices I make.…

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