“Do I need to build a foundation as a monogamous couple before I open my relationship, or can we have an open relationship right from the start?”
It’s a common question for people who want to explore open relationships, or polyamory, when they are about to start a new relationship.
I believe either way can work: building a foundation as a monogamous couple, or having an open relationship right from the start. Both ways have their pro’s and con’s. In my experience, starting right away with an open relationship makes it easier to set the other person free, as I knew being intimately involved with others was part of the game plan from the beginning.
On the other hand, learning to trust each other, getting to know each other through and through before inviting others into the relationship can create a safe haven.
In my opinion, each relationship, whether it’s open or closed, needs a safe foundation. Only when we feel safe, we feel good about the relationship. In this video I share my experiences and I share three steps to create a safe foundation in a relationship that is open from the start.
Do you (and your partner/s) want support and personal guidance on your path in non-monogamy or other aspects of your life? I am worldwide available for coaching sessions, talking e.g. about challenges, what to do when your needs and desires differ, or how to deal with jealousy and fear. Contact me for more information and booking your session.